i go to a REALLY rich school, and there are still moms who work all day. To me, the combination of money and the lack of supervision is a terrible thing, honestly the people who don't do drugs and drink and party are in the minority. (i am part of that minority)
This points out a big generational difference as I see it.
In 1970, in the typical suburban family:
Dad went to work
Mom stayed home
The three kids went to school
They had one car (with an AM radio)
They had two TV's (and one was black and white)
In 2006, in the typical suburban family:
Dad goes to work
Mom goes to work
The two kids go to school and then to after school care
They have two cars, each with AM/FM/CD (and one is probably an SUV or minivan)
They have four TV's, a game system, two MP3 players, broadband internet and two cell phones.
It now takes two incomes and one less child to maintain a satisfactory standard of living.
(Note: I'm not bashing women who work. I'm bashing a society that requires both parents to work.)
Violence without consequence...
tom and jerry? i watched tom and jerry constantly as a child, and maybe its just me, but I never got the impression of violence without consequence. It was just another cartoon that was very funny and entertaining. plus for everything that jerry did to tom, tom did back to jerry, and vice versa. "dont do what you wouldnt want done back to you" thats consequence if i ever did see it.
There was no consequence in that they were back to normal in the next scene. They also bashed each other for no other reason than they were Tom and Jerry, but that's a different issue that all cartoons have. I don't remember there being a lot of plot to a Tom and Jerry cartoon. At the end of the cartoon, everything is at it was. Contrast that with a typical Bugs Bunny cartoon. Bugs is minding his own business when someone enters the scene and tries to harm him. He retaliates. Sometimes he drives the offender away, but usually the offender returns to try again. The cycle repeats several times. Eventually, Bugs drives him away and lives happily ever after (or until the next cartoon, at least.)
as for today's games, Grand Theft Auto for instance, for every person you kill or whatever you do, your police meter rises, and eventually you can have the whole military on your back... thats consequence. Games without consequence usually involve military action. Fighting the bad guys.
And really anything that would teach violence without consequence just needs a parent to teach their kids how the world really works. but then again i'm probably very wrong on that.
What happens if you mess up in the game? Reload and try again. I admit that teaching people to try again when they fail is a good thing, but the message of "no problem. we can just do it again" isn't always appropriate. It teaches kids that any problem can just be undone - easily. There is no "Undo" button on reality.