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Title: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 02:39:54 AM
Call me old fashioned, but as far as I am concerned sexual congress is one of those few things that should never be put on display. That doesn't mean it can't be talked about, insinuated, implied, referenced...but it shouldn't be shown.  Consider Gone with the Wind, an angry Rhett sweeps a petulant Scarlett off her feet and strides up the stairs to the bedroom. Cut. Next scene, Scarlett the next morning luxuriating in bed in a much better mood.  Everything good or bad that needs to be said about their physical relationship is said right there and not one moment is wasted on clothes shucking, naked tag, bouncing naughty bits, bestial moaning, or moist body noises.  Granted others may feel very differently than I do, but I've yet to encounter anything that remotely moves me to reconsider.  Indeed the older I get, the more convinced I am on this point, I'm right...and I think I'm in good company. I don't recall any such flouncing about in Lewis or Tolkien. Moreover, I've read Ursula K. LeGuin's take on someone's dehumanizing full on misery, and it was horrific enough to consider without a single bit of R language or X scene creation.  

Suffice it to say such material is a modern penchant of which I want no part either as a reader or writer. But, as I said, that's just me.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 12, 2010, 03:41:43 AM
Emphasis mine:

Suffice it to say such material is a modern penchant of which I want no part either as a reader or writer. But, as I said, that's just me.

I see what you did there. Very clever, my angelic friend(s). Strengthening your point by associating it with the "good old times," before all that messy modern nonsense. Very good, very good.

I'd argue that the naughty, sweaty, bestial, naughty bits are a proud part of the Western literary tradition. Let's see...

So, sir, I'm afraid that your chaste literary castle is built on sand. Sex - explicit sex - is intimately related to our literary tradition. You may well have a problem with that - I'm saying that sex firmly penetrates literature, not that you have to like it - but it's so. You don't get to wrap yourself in history on this one. You're going to actually have to tell us what you don't like about it.

Note: I'd like to give credit where it's due, to my English major fiancée, without whom I wouldn't have done nearly as good a job with this post.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 04:48:57 AM
At least in part you make my point.

1984: sex scene mercifully short, and not really necessary, the story point was sufficiently made without it.

Brave New World: Not so far back in time as not to be "modern" in its sensibilities. Never read it, so I don't know how explicit it is, but I did see the old movie, and have read about its place in literary history.

Lader Chatterly's Lover: as you say the book was banned at a time when public standards were a little higher than today. Never read it, never wanted to...and from what I've read about it even if all the explicit sex were not in the book would not want to...romantic story stuff bores me. Not a flicker of interest.

Tess: Saw the movie I think, hard to recall...may have read some of the book a very long time ago...if I did my memory of it is so faint is probably because it bored me and I put it down.  Given that it was written by Sir Thomas Hardy it is no wonder...the man could bore the bark off a tree. He's the only person I've ever read who literally caused me to weep his writing was so tediously boring. Had Return of the Native not been required reading for a class I would have returned his book to the soil so that it might at least do a little good as rich life giving humus.

Women in Love: Never head of it.

Shakespeare: yes he got a trifle bawdy in his references, but mercifully spared the stage their acting out so far as I know...and if he didn't...well beyond being a little surprised such things would have been allowed then, I've primarily read his plays and have only had opportunity to see a very few of them performed.

Bible, yes, I've some familiarity with it, and with the Song of Soloman...as for the supposed intentional mistranslation assertion, I'll have to have more substantive authority on that.  Still there's ample talk about kisses and breasts and the like, I'll grant you.  But such talk as there is does not descend into to anything more than the language of admiration...no "action" beyond kissing.

So I would counter while our literature does have a history of sexual reference, the more explicit and graphic literary forays have tended to be sources of long standing public disdain regardless of their other literary merits. The whole notion that art needs to shock the sensibilities or challenge tradition, or the common cultural mores never had much traction with me. I'll admit there are limited occasions when use of the arts to challenge some conventions are warranted but that would be more when dealing with some entrenched injustice like Jim Crow laws, or filthy meat packing plants, hence works like To Kill A Mocking Bird, Invisible Man, the Jungle, or the children's books Beautiful Joe.

As for what I don't like about it...its simple, it is a very private, and dare I say holy congress that is simply inappropriate to put in the public eye. Other human beings come from that act. Turning it into a mere voyeuristic entertainment trivializes it, degrades it. In short such use of it is shameful...an antiquated conceit in an age where shame is reserved for smoking, wearing fur, voting republican and eating nonorganic tofu, but there you have it.  It's not quite as bad as snuff films, but then what is?

Beyond that I really don't like foul language...to read or to hear. I will endure a very little knowing what times we live in...but only a little and it is a little that I do not like very much at all. The combination of foul language (which to me is just crude and impolite) and graphic sexual depictions is more than I am willing to endure. Others can read it if they like. I don't.

I know this view is a little narrow-minded by today's standards, but as I once heard it explained I try to treat my mind like a living room and not a junk yard. A living room is narrow minded. Some things are permitted in...if they meet a certain standard, but not just anything. The junkyard on the other hand admits anything without any discernment or discrimination.  There are images, thoughts, ideations that I simply do not want in my head. One cannot unexpose oneself to things that are inherently corrupting...sort of like pee in the pool, there's no getting it out once in. But with enough time, and chlorine, and sunshine, and great care about who you let swim in your pool...the effect of pee past can fade away....but that will never happen if you keep giving the peeers free access.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 12, 2010, 05:06:00 AM
Yes, reading a sex scene in a story specifically about the alienation of sex and how disconnected it can be from anything like a relationship is just like peeing in a pool.  Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

What if people were saying things like, "I can't ever read a scene about eating food without feeling like it's just there to taunt me and try to make me hungry.  All that talk of smells and flavors... and the chewing!  Goodness me, what have standards come to when there's an entire story that uses eating as a metaphor and explores what it means.  Things were better in the old days.  No one talked about eating in polite company." 

Sex can be holy, but it can also be vicious and destructive, and more to the point it doesn't have any of these qualities unless we give them to it.  Without a human to perceive it, it's a mere biological process.  It's a connection, but in and of itself, stripped of a relationship with another human, all it is is... Ins and Outs.  Humans are what give it meaning and make it holy, and this is a story about that.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 05:14:14 AM
 
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Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

Yep...pretty much. For me it does.

BTW the pee in the pool metaphor was not about sex/sex scenes per se but about exercising control...choosing what types of things you want in your mind, being a bit discriminating about what you allow to influence/inform you. 

Addendum: For those who are making inferences based on my username, just to clear things up, it is not some attempt at pretension...its just my name.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 12, 2010, 05:42:24 AM
I sliced your comment up in order to reply to it in a way that suits my purposes more. I don't think I actually mangled your points, but I thought a disclaimer was in order.

So I would counter while our literature does have a history of sexual reference, the more explicit and graphic literary forays have tended to be sources of long standing public disdain regardless of their other literary merits.

I think you're taking a very narrow view of "long standing public disdain." Or, perhaps, a very loose view. Many of the works I listed are now viewed as great classics, taught in high schools and colleges throughout American and Europe. These are great works we're talking about. You can say you don't like them, but it's... well, it's just plain wrong to claim that they have suffered "long standing public disdain." A more accurate description might be that they suffered "short term and ultimately unsuccessful attempts to ban them." That's the history. That's what happened.

The whole notion that art needs to shock the sensibilities or challenge tradition, or the common cultural mores never had much traction with me. I'll admit there are limited occasions when use of the arts to challenge some conventions are warranted but that would be more when dealing with some entrenched injustice like Jim Crow laws, or filthy meat packing plants, hence works like To Kill A Mocking Bird, Invisible Man, the Jungle, or the children's books Beautiful Joe.

This is an interesting conceit, and I won't argue with you much here. Yes, it's true: major injustices often need to be combated with incredibly distressing art. Less striking issues don't demand the same degree of challenge. Whether or not (and to what degree) you like being shocked, appalled, and challenged by your art is a very personal choice, so here I'm satisfied if we just agree to disagree. I like it when stories throw me for a loop, distress me, and make me question my assumptions about life, even when it isn't about a "major" issue. You have an issue you don't want to be challenged on: sex. That's fine.

That brings us to your last point...

As for what I don't like about it...its simple, it is a very private, and dare I say holy congress that is simply inappropriate to put in the public eye. Other human beings come from that act. Turning it into a mere voyeuristic entertainment trivializes it, degrades it. In short such use of it is shameful...an antiquated conceit in an age where shame is reserved for smoking, wearing fur, voting republican and eating nonorganic tofu, but there you have it.  It's not quite as bad as snuff films, but then what is?

Beyond that I really don't like foul language...to read or to hear. I will endure a very little knowing what times we live in...but only a little and it is a little that I do not like very much at all. The combination of foul language (which to me is just crude and impolite) and graphic sexual depictions is more than I am willing to endure. Others can read it if they like. I don't.

I know this view is a little narrow-minded by today's standards, but as I once heard it explained I try to treat my mind like a living room and not a junk yard. A living room is narrow minded. Some things are permitted in...if they meet a certain standard, but not just anything. The junkyard on the other hand admits anything without any discernment or discrimination.  There are images, thoughts, ideations that I simply do not want in my head. One cannot unexpose oneself to things that are inherently corrupting...sort of like pee in the pool, there's no getting it out once in. But with enough time, and chlorine, and sunshine, and great care about who you let swim in your pool...the effect of pee past can fade away....but that will never happen if you keep giving the peeers free access.

I respect your opinion here. I'm going to post with my opinion, but that doesn't mean I disagree with you; how can I disagree with what you prefer?

In my mind, there is nothing dirty or bad about sex. There is also nothing holy or sacred about sex. Dirty and bad, holy and sacred - these concepts are nothing more than concepts. As far as I'm concerned, I made them up and I can do whatever I want with them. Sometimes I like my sex holy and sacred... and sometimes I like it dirty and bad. As my fiancée (the English major) just called out from across the room: "sometimes I want to be treated like a piece of meat." I think a lot of people feel that way from time to time, and there's nothing wrong with that.

So for me, tending to the living room of my mind doesn't mean keeping the sex out. I prefer a food metaphor to a living room metaphor. I feed my head a balanced diet of fiction and nonfiction, science and fantasy, brownies and salad and steak. Sometimes I want to sink my teeth into something substantial and greasy and wonderful (the Mistborn Trilogy) and sometimes I want something sparse and healthy (The Death and Life of the Great American School System) and sometimes I want to enjoy some chewing gum (I have the Collected Conan the Barbarian around here somewhere...). The sexiness of a work isn't a primary factor in whether or not I want to consume it. It's just another quality - another flavor, if you will, or perhaps a vitamin - that I enjoy.

It sounds like you've got a Madonna/whore complex about your fiction; sex is too beautiful to be degraded with actually reading about it and too degrading to expose your beautiful mind to. Well, hey... it's your life. Have fun. As long as you're not a book-banner, I don't care what you think about what's appropriate and what's not.

Before I continue, though, I'd like to point this out in bold:

You just flipped on what's old fashioned and what's new-fangled. You are neither rooted in a proud puritanical post nor reaching forward to a bold puritanical future. You're just you. That's ok - your points will stand fine on their own without making stuff up.

I'm sorry. That kind of arguing really bothers me.

At least in part you make my point.

I beg to differ, as we will see below...

1984: sex scene mercifully short, and not really necessary, the story point was sufficiently made without it.

I disagree. By showing us that the characters have lost the capacity to enjoy sex, Orwell is driving the depravity of his dystopia home. The world of 1984 is a terrible place - the party has even stolen sex from them. The characters' dry, limp, humiliating fumbling is absolutely essential to understanding the future Orwell is trying to scare us away from.

Brave New World: Not so far back in time as not to be "modern" in its sensibilities. Never read it, so I don't know how explicit it is, but I did see the old movie, and have read about its place in literary history.

Eh.. modern's a pretty flexible term, so I'll let you slide on this one. I recall the scene as quite explicit, but I could be wrong.

Lader Chatterly's Lover: as you say the book was banned at a time when public standards were a little higher than today. Never read it, never wanted to...and from what I've read about it even if all the explicit sex were not in the book would not want to...romantic story stuff bores me. Not a flicker of interest.

I think it's interesting that sex appalls you and romance bores you... but that's none of my business. I also think that public standards being "higher" is a very subjective term, and not one I'm going to let you toss out without an argument. Certainly, public standards were stricter. Whether or not that was a good thing, though... well, I already stated my opinion above, as have you. I won't reiterate our points here.

Tess: Saw the movie I think, hard to recall...may have read some of the book a very long time ago...if I did my memory of it is so faint is probably because it bored me and I put it down.  Given that it was written by Sir Thomas Hardy it is no wonder...the man could bore the bark off a tree. He's the only person I've ever read who literally caused me to weep his writing was so tediously boring. Had Return of the Native not been required reading for a class I would have returned his book to the soil so that it might at least do a little good as rich life giving humus.

I agree with you on Hardy, and Tess is awful. That doesn't change the fact that the explicit rape scene undermines your point about how prim the good old days were. I'll remind you of that and move on.

Women in Love: Never head of it.

Neither have I - my fiancée recommended it as evidence. She's smart.

Shakespeare: yes he got a trifle bawdy in his references, but mercifully spared the stage their acting out so far as I know...and if he didn't...well beyond being a little surprised such things would have been allowed then, I've primarily read his plays and have only had opportunity to see a very few of them performed.

A trifle bawdy. A trifle?

We have a fart joke in "The Tempest." In "Hamlet," two characters joke about being firmly ensconced in Lady Fortune's genitals. Speaking of "Hamlet," Hamlet himself tells Ophelia exactly where she can stick it, repeatedly, with instructions; it just sounds pretty because we don't understand it anymore. We have a half an hour tirade about a girlfriend's breasts in "Comedy of Errors." There's more, but I have to stop. The next point is my favorite:

Bible, yes, I've some familiarity with it, and with the Song of Soloman...as for the supposed intentional mistranslation assertion, I'll have to have more substantive authority on that.  Still there's ample talk about kisses and breasts and the like, I'll grant you.  But such talk as there is does not descend into to anything more than the language of admiration...no "action" beyond kissing.

Ok... *knuckle crack* my fiancée might have been an English major, but I was a Religion major, and this is going to be fun.

I'm not going to go over the Song of Songs line by line. I'm going to pick out two of my favorite parts.

First, here's the part I was referenceing before: Song of Songs 7:2-5. I'm not going to quote the whole text at you because the King James version is an awful translation of the original and it's all I can find online. I'm going to summarize it like this:

1. He praises her feet.
2. He praises her thighs.
3. He praises her navel.
4. He praises her belly.
5. He praises her breasts, neck, eyes, et...

Notice something weird? Feet, thights, belly button (?), belly, and up?

Hebrew poetry was very structured. When one started a pattern, one did not break from it. One didn't detour, and one certainly didn't repeat - even for the ancient Hebrews, "belly" and "navel" meant basically the same thing. What we're looking at here is a willing mistranslation of a word that I promise you is not navel. And what does he say about her navel?

"Your "navel" is like a round goblet/let mixed wine not be lacking!"

Sounds a little like he... well... here's the other part: Song of Songs 4:6-7

"...I will betake me to the mount of myrrh, to the hill of frankincense. Every part of you is fair, my darling, there is no blemish in you."

"Navel" like a goblet filled with "wine." Going to the "mount of myrrh?"

Not at all explicitly sexy. Nope.

* * *

Deep breaths, Paladin. Deep breaths...

I'm going to stop now because I think I'm turning into a bit of an overzealous jerk. I'd like to close with a reiteration of my most important point:

It's ok for you to feel however you like about sex and literature - I feel differently, and that's ok - but don't try to pretend that your statements are based on absolute truths. There was no golden age of sexless literature. There will be no golden future of sexless literature. Sex and literature were and will always be an important part of art. You can avoid those kinds of art that offend your sensibilities - dirty up your living room - but you aren't "right" and you aren't "wrong." You're just you. That's all any of us are.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 06:43:17 AM
I appreciate your efforts Paladin, but I'm not convinced; the LXX (the one that counts) still reads navel, but be that as it may that detail is ultimately irrelevant even if I accept your reading...as I stated SoS deals in the language of admiration (she's beautiful, personable, and smells nice), not graphic depictions of intercourse. And it is the graphic depictions I find extraordinarily distasteful.

As for golden puritanical eras either past or future...I'm no fan of either prospect and regard nothing concerning the Puritans to be golden except perhaps the odd coin or two.  But I am for self restraint.

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I think it's interesting that sex appalls you and romance bores you
  Sex doesn't appall me...making a spectacle of it does.  And romance as a story...yeah it bores me...If I've got a choice to see Sleepless in Seattle or Saving Private Ryan... I'm not picking the one about "soul mates" finding each other via call in radio shows.

That said, at least we agree on Hardy...and that after all is something.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 04:47:22 PM
hmmm never intended to start a whole new thread...just chiming in on why I didn't want to read or listen to Spar...or anything remotely like it.  Maybe better not to chime in on some things.

That said...
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There will be no golden future of sexless literature.
Maybe not...but wouldn't it be wonderful it there were...as Hamlet might say, "a consummation devoutly to be wished." ...anybody else hear Louie Armstrong singing "what a wonderful world?" No? Must be just me then.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Talia on July 12, 2010, 04:51:02 PM
hmmm never intended to start a whole new thread...just chiming in on why I didn't want to read or listen to Spar...or anything remotely like it.  Maybe better not to chime in on some things.

Threads get split off all the time, its only to keep the main more about the story. People were enjoying chiming in on this discussion, which is why it kinda derailed and got split.

Don't let that stop you though. :)
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Listener on July 12, 2010, 04:54:48 PM
Yes, reading a sex scene in a story specifically about the alienation of sex and how disconnected it can be from anything like a relationship is just like peeing in a pool.  Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

I disagree strongly.

I think there can be a lot of strong writing about what happens DURING sex that, in order to write, you have to have the sex scene. Now, a lot of authors do really terrible sex scenes *coughLAURELLHAMILTONcough* but for me personally I like a good sex scene, especially when the characters really care about each other. Which wasn't happening in "Spar".

Hell, I wrote an entire novel based upon sex. I'm not saying it's great -- it's not even done being edited -- but I'd like to think, Cat, if you read it, you wouldn't hate it.

To my mind, the trick to writing a sex scene is to make it about more than just the ins and outs. And "Spar" had a lot more than just ins and outs.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Bdoomed on July 12, 2010, 05:06:35 PM
hmmm never intended to start a whole new thread...just chiming in on why I didn't want to read or listen to Spar...or anything remotely like it.  Maybe better not to chime in on some things.
We like chiming in on things around here.  Don't worry that it was split off, happens all the time, like Talia said.  Actually, I would be proud.  With a new thread, this topic has much more room to breathe and expand and grow.  That is, as long as it remains civil :)

Yes, reading a sex scene in a story specifically about the alienation of sex and how disconnected it can be from anything like a relationship is just like peeing in a pool.  Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

I disagree strongly.
Hey, I could be wrong, but I read Scattercat's post as sarcastic, not serious (correct me if I'm wrong, Scattercat).


Anyways, personally, sex in literature is just fine by my standards.  Granted, I'm 19 with loose morals (much stronger morals than many of my peers, however) and I'll take my sex wherever it might come.  :P  But I remember back in 8th grade when I first began reading literature for more than simple reading comprehension, and more for analysis.  We read 1984 and Brave New World, both with sexual themes (one much more than the other).  I consider both of those novels to be cornerstones of my literary education, and Brave New World especially would not be the same without the sexual aspect.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 12, 2010, 05:30:16 PM
First off, Seraphim, I just want to say I respect your opinion and understand where you're coming from. I probably was in a similar place ten years ago, and like many other posters have said, I'm glad you decided to speak up about it, even if I don't quite agree with your conclusions.

One thing I really appreciate about how "Spar" (in particular) was very up front about what it was about in the first sentence - you know right off the bat if this is something you want to spend 22 minutes listening to or not. And you clearly made the right choice for you.

That said, I can't agree with the suggestion that sex - more explicit than Rhett carrying Scarlett upstairs and closing the bedroom door, at least - doesn't have a place in literature.

Passion
Temptation
Despair
Loss
Betrayal
Healing
Humor
Desensitization
Holiness

You might suggest that you can get to these emotions without any description of sex, and in some cases you might be right, but as a blanket statement, I can't get behind it.

I think this is at least partially, because sex is an extremely intimate and personal experience. The relationship between a reader/listener and the text, and an author and the text is also an incredibly intimate and personal experience (albeit, very different).  So it makes sense to me, as an author, to use sex to get across some of those feelings/themes, because telling stories is a very personal thing.

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There will be no golden future of sexless literature.
Maybe not...but wouldn't it be wonderful it there were...as Hamlet might say, "a consummation devoutly to be wished." ...anybody else hear Louie Armstrong singing "what a wonderful world?" No? Must be just me then.

Not for me, at least. Don't get me wrong - I don't want every story to be all about the sex, and I'm tired of stories overusing sex, but in general, I like sex in literature. It's a part of my life, and it's a very human thing to explore, and reflect upon. I'm not saying you should read stories with lots of sex, but I find the suggestion that it should just go away from literature, or that people in general shouldn't read or write about sex to be a bit off.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Listener on July 12, 2010, 06:02:49 PM
Yes, reading a sex scene in a story specifically about the alienation of sex and how disconnected it can be from anything like a relationship is just like peeing in a pool.  Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

I disagree strongly.
Hey, I could be wrong, but I read Scattercat's post as sarcastic, not serious (correct me if I'm wrong, Scattercat).

Upon reread, yeah, I see it as sarcastic too. Ah well. I still stand by my point and will make it to anyone who says that stuff non-sarcastically.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 12, 2010, 06:03:33 PM
...Granted, I'm 19 with loose morals (much stronger morals than many of my peers, however) and I'll take my sex wherever it might come...

Stop! Listen!

You agree with me and you're still falling into this stupid trap. This assumption promiscuous sex or desire for sex is a sign of immorality is cultural, connected to specific places and times. It's not a general assumption, it's not a universal truth. It's a cultural expectation that not everyone shares.

For me, sex is not a moral issue; war, healthcare, torture, education, and poverty are moral issues. Sex is an activity.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Bdoomed on July 12, 2010, 06:33:13 PM
However, there still is a large portion of sex that IS a moral issue.  In the natural sense, yes, it is an activity.  But in the societal sense, it is very much a moral decision.  The degree to which it is a moral decision varies culturally.  Religion has seen to that,  especially the Judeo-christian morality, and even more so the conservative side to it.  Promiscuity is immoral, waiting till marriage is moral, etc.  I am not saying, however, that these are the morals to live by.  But the fact of the matter is that where I live, America, sexuality and morality are connected.  There is nothing I can do about that.  If I want to have sex, I have to find someone else with the same moral standpoint as I in regards to sex.  That being, it's not a moral issue for me.  But to society as a whole, it IS a moral issue.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 12, 2010, 07:17:11 PM
Yes, reading a sex scene in a story specifically about the alienation of sex and how disconnected it can be from anything like a relationship is just like peeing in a pool.  Putting a sex scene in your work automatically reduces the quality and corrupts everything around it. 

I disagree strongly.
Hey, I could be wrong, but I read Scattercat's post as sarcastic, not serious (correct me if I'm wrong, Scattercat).

Upon reread, yeah, I see it as sarcastic too. Ah well. I still stand by my point and will make it to anyone who says that stuff non-sarcastically.

Scattercat is prone to sarcasm, particularly when people are making rather ridiculous blanket statements i.e. that reading a sex scene will soil your mind.  "I don't like reading it because it bothers me" is fine.  Know thyself, be aware of your own stumbling blocks, etc.  "Reading that will corrupt my brain, so I choose to avoid it" is nonsensical.  It has patently failed to corrupt quite a few brains, so observational data supports the idea that it is the brains that are important rather than the content in itself.

Sex is a part of being human.  As long as that's true, literature will (and should) have sex in it to all the varying degrees of explicitness. 

Sex qua sex is not a moral issue; moral behavior comes in when relationships enter the picture.  Sex is a potent bonding tool for humans and releases all sort of fizzy little chemicals in the brain.  If you're trying to maintain a relationship of almost any kind (from friendship on up to some sort of immense polyamory), then when and how and with whom you engage in bonding activities will indeed be an important choice to make. 
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 12, 2010, 07:33:36 PM
However, there still is a large portion of sex that IS a moral issue.  In the natural sense, yes, it is an activity.  But in the societal sense, it is very much a moral decision.  The degree to which it is a moral decision varies culturally.  Religion has seen to that,  especially the Judeo-christian morality, and even more so the conservative side to it.  Promiscuity is immoral, waiting till marriage is moral, etc.  I am not saying, however, that these are the morals to live by.  But the fact of the matter is that where I live, America, sexuality and morality are connected.  There is nothing I can do about that.  If I want to have sex, I have to find someone else with the same moral standpoint as I in regards to sex.  That being, it's not a moral issue for me.  But to society as a whole, it IS a moral issue.

A greater man than I once said "be the change you want to see in the world."

I believe that as a Judeo-Christian myself (more specifically, a Judeo), I am as much the owner of that particular tradition as anyone else, more so when compared to the long-dead people who invented it; I'm the one who has to live in it, after all. I certainly have as much a stake in what America's culture says about sex as anyone else. Sexuality and morality are only connected because enough people agree that they are. If enough of us change our minds... why, anything is possible!

I write a lot - especially in forums - about facing the uncertainty of the world and not hiding behind hackneyed and inaccurate presentations of "history" or "truth." I (try to) apply the same standard to myself. Attitudes about sex are as ephemeral as any other human attitude. They are entirely subjective and changeable - and we can change them if we want to, are changing them every moment of every day - not "true."

Anyway, this brings me to my point about sex in literature: in my view, sex is just another part of the human experience. Certainly, it's one we don't want to plaster all over everything. Harmful to the children and all that.

My views aside, I think this discussion could actually go somewhere if we stopped assuming a sex-negative viewpoint. The assumption that sex is too bad to be talked about/too holy to be talked about produces a foregone conclusion: that literature is no place for sex. Wouldn't it be more interesting to set aside our assumptions so we can have a discussion that we don't already know the end of?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 12, 2010, 07:43:30 PM
To play devil's advocate for a moment, you are basically asking everyone else (i.e. those who automatically categorize sex as special among other activities) to assume their views are false and engage with your point of view on your terms.   ;) 

However, I think it's a very important point; some assumptions simply shut down discussion.  If you assume certain basic premises, then there will be some conclusions you cannot avoid.  Chief among those assumptions that most shut down discussion are variants of "God told me so," in which some outside authority decrees things to be a certain way, but there are others.  This is all rather tangential to the point of the thread.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 12, 2010, 07:54:51 PM
To play devil's advocate for a moment, you are basically asking everyone else (i.e. those who don't automatically categorize sex as special among other activities) to assume their views are false and engage with your point of view on your terms.   ;) 

However, I think it's a very important point; some assumptions simply shut down discussion.  If you assume certain basic premises, then there will be some conclusions you cannot avoid.  Chief among those assumptions that most shut down discussion are variants of "God told me so," in which some outside authority decrees things to be a certain way, but there are others.  This is all rather tangential to the point of the thread.

Huh, yeah. That's the problem with my "let's assume that your point of view is subjective - mine, too"  philosophy. It, itself, is a point of view, and therefore subjective! Ah! Brainsplosion!

I maintain, however - and you seem to agree - that an assumption of subjectivity is the only way to go to maintain an atmosphere of discourse is to assume some degree of subjectivity, otherwise there's no point in talking. You already know you're right and the rest of us are ignorant heathens.

As a Judeo, though, I'd like to speak up in defense of "God told me so." You know, the ancient (and modern) rabbis have this wonderful tradition of debating what, exactly, God meant when he told me so. They also believed in subjectivity enough that they preserved, forever, many records of the opinions that were rejected by the community... kind of like an online forum ;).

Ah, but I'm digressing. The point is... a good question. And that's the point.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DToland on July 12, 2010, 09:45:27 PM
So doesn't it come pretty much full circle back to what Seraphim said in the first place?  That he didn't care to read (or listen to) predominantly sexual stories?

My stance is similar.  If the focus is sexual titillation or voyeurism, not to mention defense of less savory sexual behavior, I will generally avoid it.  Some of it nauseates me;  some of it merely frustrates me.  If I wanted to feel frustrated, I'd have stayed married. ;)

I haven't gotten around to The Spar yet.  I'll probably listen to at least part of it, to see if it really has something of substance to offer.  After all, the discussion I've seen hints at a deeper purpose than just catering to lasciviousness urges.

People vote their preferences by what the choose to turn their back on.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: eytanz on July 12, 2010, 09:57:49 PM
So doesn't it come pretty much full circle back to what Seraphim said in the first place?  That he didn't care to read (or listen to) predominantly sexual stories?

That's not what he said. If that was what he said, I doubt anyone would be debating him.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DToland on July 12, 2010, 10:05:50 PM
What he said was:
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I'm glad this one had a warning. I've no interest in any of the territory this story is purported to explore. To this day I've never encountered any sex scene in any book or story that had any serious purpose beyond titillation I could discern. I found if I read them anyway I could not see what those scenes added and was generally disgusted by having let those images inside my head. Since then whenever they occur, I skip ahead and apparently miss nothing of substance to the rest of the story. So if a story such as Spar is so heavily invested in sex and blue language about sex then it is one that I might as well skip from the get go. I tried the first few lines of this story...just to be fair, but my reaction was (as expected) yuck, yuck, and yuck and that was all I could stand and I was sorry I had even bothered at all. Stories about sex, with sexually graphic scenes, with scads of obscene reference and a vocabulary seldom untethered from the scatological...just leave me reaching for a handy gallon of Purell. It grosses me out every time and not in a good way.

I summarized, but I don't think my interpretation is a gross misrepresentation.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 12, 2010, 10:16:27 PM
However, when someone says they don't want to read, say, "Spar" because *any* sex scenes in literature are inherently bad, that's a point that can be argued.  No one is arguing that Seraphim (or anyone else) should read the story if they don't want to.  However, ElectricPaladin and I are saying that one should examine one's reasons and be sure they are good ones before making sweeping assertions about what makes good writing and what does not. 

As I said, "I don't like to read sex scenes because they make me uncomfortable" is a perfectly reasonable position.  "I don't like to read sex scenes because they serve no point other than titillation" or "I don't read sex scenes because sex is sacred and should never be portrayed in art" are much broader and less defensible positions.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 12, 2010, 10:33:05 PM
If the focus is sexual titillation or voyeurism, not to mention defense of less savory sexual behavior, I will generally avoid it. 

I think part of what's at issue is that Seraphim has suggested sex is only used for titillation and does not serve the plot or characters; or at least, can be excluded from the plot and characters.

As I've said, I don't think anyone should have to read or listen to something they're uncomfortable with, and I suspect Seraphim made a wise choice by not finishing the story.

But I disagree that sex in literature is only used for titillation.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DToland on July 12, 2010, 10:45:11 PM
Who are you disagreeing with?  That is not what I said.  What I said was:
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If the focus is sexual titillation or voyeurism, not to mention defense of less savory sexual behavior, I will generally avoid it.

"If" is such a small word, it is easy to overlook.  But it's probably the largest concept in science fiction, so give it its due.  :)
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 12, 2010, 10:50:58 PM
Who are you disagreeing with?  That is not what I said.  What I said was:
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If the focus is sexual titillation or voyeurism, not to mention defense of less savory sexual behavior, I will generally avoid it.

"If" is such a small word, it is easy to overlook.  But it's probably the largest concept in science fiction, so give it its due.  :)

...he did.  No one's arguing about your point or your decision. 

If you look at what you quoted from S-dawg, it reads "To this day I've never encountered any sex scene in any book or story that had any serious purpose beyond titillation I could discern."  That's what we're arguing about; that sex scenes can and do have purposes other than titillation.  One can even acknowledge that while admitting to a personal distaste for them, if one is so inclined.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 10:57:24 PM
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To play devil's advocate for a moment, you are basically asking everyone else (i.e. those who automatically categorize sex as special among other activities) to assume their views are false and engage with your point of view on your terms.    

However, I think it's a very important point; some assumptions simply shut down discussion.

I agree here. To move the discussion a little further along if we broaden the scope a little with respect to categorization, what we are ultimately talking about here are questions of taboo in a culture that has shed many and grown generally ambivalent to the very notion of taboo. Consider for example the types of things we protect our children from in order to shield and preserve their innocence.  Remember the movie Paper Moon with Tatum O'Neil, how much surprise and shock it caused to put a four letter word in a little girl's mouth.  Compare that tiny breach of the cultural envelope then with the potty mouth on the little hit girl in the recent movie Kick-Ass.  It caused a similar is somewhat smaller shorter lived stir. The idea that there are parents who would condone such language from a child for pay still dumbfounds me...but obviously they are out there. And many of those who "celebrate" the artistic freedom of the film would stand aghast to hear such a stream of profanity issuing from the mouth of their own nine-year olds.  My question is what will be the next cultural barrier to fall in the name of personal freedom and artistic expression.  Anyone remember the movie L.I.E., a "heartwarming", though not graphic story of a kid in trouble befriended and helped by the local neighborhood pedophile. You love who you love, right...whose's too judge.  Today's well that's just obviously wrong is tomorrow's who gives you the right to tell me how to live.  How long before NAMBLA is just the next "social group" fighting for its members' "rights."  Today the notion of what they stand for is still taboo. But yesterday openly gay living was taboo, and the day before that cursing children were taboo, and the week before that adultery and fornication were taboo as was divorce without substantive cause, a month ago public religious life still received at least token public respect. So will NAMBLA remain taboo tomorrow or the day after? Should they...who has the right to say? We are not a culture comfortable any longer with the notion that some things are none of our business and some things make for a better society if made taboo for all.

We tend to feed giddy and sophisticated when we get by with breaking taboos...especially the "sexy, adventurous" ones, especially if our daring garners any sort of admiration. Those rules are for the others, the social hoipoloi, not for us, the sophisticates, who have special needs and refined pallates.  But when enough people want to be sophisticated too (monkey see monkey do) the taboo falls, the society changes, and I would argue generally for the worse...the decadent little pleasure of the few becomes the wallow of the many...and for those living socially downwind it's like having a pig farm in the neighborhood, the stink just permeates everything. Now I suppose like anything else one can get used to pig stench and not notice it anymore...however, going away from it into the fresh air and coming back to it makes it very noticeable again.

Now there are some people in the world, like me, who have rethought certain notions of personal freedom, artistic license, and individualism and have come to the conclusion our old social traditions have value. They answer a number of questions we have forgotten to ask. There are things that are rightly for all and for all time taboo, forbidden, off limits, not our business. For the purposes of this aspect of our discussion it doesn't matter so much which particular things are considered taboo, but rather that taboo's exist in a society which should be respected and maintained except for the most necessary and compelling of reasons. Just because I like it, and just because no one is gonna tell me what not to do if I wanna is not compelling.

The taproot of this discussion though is not a question of taboo, but a question of human freedom.  There is an innate desire in humans to be free from any constraint. It is part of us. It's in our very bones. Even suicide is ultimately negative expression of the desire for freedom, "I didn't ask to be, don't want to be, so I choose not to be." But we all know we do not possess the wisdom and intelligence to permit complete unfettered freedom. That is a recipe for chaos, for the predation of the weak by the strong.

Recall the scene from Lord of the Flies where Roger is throwing rocks at the small boy, Henry...Roger's native penchant to sadism is held in check by an invisible army of parents, teachers, peace officers, doctors, and ministers whose social mores form a protective ring about the child so that Roger always throws wide of the mark. Once he loses this inhibition at the end of the book then any evil he delights in is open to him as is evident when he kills Piggy and later tortures Sam and Eric.  

We know instinctively if we were all generous and loving, then there would be no need for any restraints on our freedom, but alas we are not so uniformly generous and loving, and so we do accept that in society our personal freedom is restrained for our good and the good of society as a whole.  Taboos are part of the fabric of that restraint, and we pick at their threads at our peril.  If we continue, the day will come when we will not even have the rags of civil behavior left to us, and we will all stand naked and vulnerable to the whims of the strong and cunning among us.  Our freedom of self expression is important and precious but it is not all that must be weighted in the balance.  We have a responsibility not to let our lives, our free expression become the pig farm next door stinking up our neighbors' yards. If we must raise pigs then at least be generous enough to take the enterprise far outside the city limits, don't demand the stink be celebrated because pig is delicious and barbecues are fun.  

There are long standing social taboos against promiscuity, against explicit sexual depiction/description, and against coarse discourse. In the early 20th century a breed of artists arose who chaffed at the old standards and set their genius and their will against those old taboos and were celebrated sooner or later for their forward thinking and sophistication which paved the way for others to follow. This is not to say conventions were never broken before...but never before on such a wholesale scale. Want to see what we've gained "culturally" just tune in to MTV's Spring Break or peruse some of the up and coming hit videos....a long and winding road from Shanananah and I wanna Hold Your Hand to I like Big Butts and I Smell Yo ****.  

We are so careful to preserve the innocence of our children, why are we so eager to throw our own away? It baffles me.








Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: eytanz on July 12, 2010, 11:16:50 PM
Seraphim, before I respond to the above - or more accurately, before I decide whether to respond - I'd appreciate it if you clarify something.

There are two possible interpretations that I can take from your response, and I would like to know which you meant:

Option 1. The existance of taboo is important for the preservation of society, and without it society cannot function. To avoid descent into chaos, we need to set up a system of boundaries that civilized people shall not cross. The nature of those boundaries is secondary; historically, it happens to be the representation of sexual activity, but it could easily have been, say, the consumption of alchohol (an activity we protect our children from, but do not shy from representing). What is important is not so much what our taboos are, but rather that we have them, as they are basically an outer shield that protects the inner core of what society is really about. Perhaps, if history had taken a different path, then we would have had different long-standing taboos protecting us; but as the society we live in happens to have chosen promiscuity, explicit sexual depiction/description, and coarse discourse as its outer protection, we should respect that.

Option 2. Taboos are important, and not arbitrary. There is something inherently wrong about the representation of sexual activity, such that it follows that once it is allowed, we have started on a path that leads directly to chaos and corruption. There cannot be a society that is founded upon different taboos, as promiscuity, explicit sexual depiction/description, and coarse discourse directly challenge the very essence of civilization.

Which of these two is it? Or is it neither and I misunderstood you?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 11:21:30 PM
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That's what we're arguing about; that sex scenes can and do have purposes other than titillation.

I'm no spring chicken, and I've read a lot of books...if this statement is so I've not encountered it yet. As I've said, every such scene I've encountered has done little or nothing of great importance vis a vis the plot, and even the few such as in 1984 that do contribute a little it's not enough they would really be missed if their point was made with exposition and otherwise just deleted.  The moment people start shucking cloths I can flip over a page or two and have missed nothing...the story picks right up where it was otherwise interrupted.  The only reason I can see for those types of passages is a moment of purulent titillation because they tend not to advance the plot or character development any other way.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Sandikal on July 12, 2010, 11:28:14 PM
May I just ask why this thread it pinned to the top?

I usually don't mind sex in literature if it fits.  So few people write it well though and I think it's often better left out. 
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: eytanz on July 12, 2010, 11:28:35 PM
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That's what we're arguing about; that sex scenes can and do have purposes other than titillation.

I'm no spring chicken, and I've read a lot of books...if this statement is so I've not encountered it yet. As I've said, every such scene I've encountered has done little or nothing of great importance vis a vis the plot, and even the few such as in 1984 that do contribute a little it's not enough they would really be missed if their point was made with exposition and otherwise just deleted.  The moment people start shucking cloths I can flip over a page or two and have missed nothing...the story picks right up where it was otherwise interrupted.  The only reason I can see for those types of passages is a moment of purulent titillation because they tend not to advance the plot or character development any other way.

Above and beyond the other issues in the thread, I have to point out, as others have done, that you are committing the fallacy of generalizing over your own personal experiences, tastes and biases. I have never, in my 33 years of life, encountered an orange that didn't cause me to break up in hives. Am I to assume that just because I am allergic, oranges are toxic to all men?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 11:34:59 PM
I don't see these options as mutually exclusive.

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Option 1. The existance of taboo is important for the preservation of society, and without it society cannot function. To avoid descent into chaos, we need to set up a system of boundaries that civilized people shall not cross. The nature of those boundaries is secondary; historically, it happens to be the representation of sexual activity, but it could easily have been, say, the consumption of alchohol (an activity we protect our children from, but do not shy from representing). What is important is not so much what our taboos are, but rather that we have them, as they are basically an outer shield that protects the inner core of what society is really about. Perhaps, if history had taken a different path, then we would have had different long-standing taboos protecting us; but as the society we live in happens to have chosen promiscuity, explicit sexual depiction/description, and coarse discourse as its outer protection, we should respect that.

Most of this I tend to agree with but I think the last sentence needs to be considered with some caveats, namely that these taboo choices in times past were not some arbitrary on a whim kind of thing. These things were decided against with carefully considered purpose.

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Option 2. Taboos are important, and not arbitrary. There is something inherently wrong about the representation of sexual activity, such that it follows that once it is allowed, we have started on a path that leads directly to chaos and corruption. There cannot be a society that is founded upon different taboos, as promiscuity, explicit sexual depiction/description, and coarse discourse directly challenge the very essence of civilization.

I would modify the first sentence to say "taboos are important and some core ones are not arbitrary.  The last sentence I do not think is true in all respects, different societies have and can existed that have different sexual mores and survived a very long time. I would say such things change the nature of that civilization, and not necessarily for the better. And I would say the particular taboos you mention guard from what not just is damaging to civilization but damaging to a person as a person, for personhood is by nature relational, and those particular things very much influence the ideation and behavior a person brings to relationships of any sort.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 12, 2010, 11:45:25 PM
Who are you disagreeing with?  That is not what I said.  What I said was:
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If the focus is sexual titillation or voyeurism, not to mention defense of less savory sexual behavior, I will generally avoid it.

"If" is such a small word, it is easy to overlook.  But it's probably the largest concept in science fiction, so give it its due.  :)

...he did.  No one's arguing about your point or your decision. 

If you look at what you quoted from S-dawg, it reads "To this day I've never encountered any sex scene in any book or story that had any serious purpose beyond titillation I could discern."  That's what we're arguing about; that sex scenes can and do have purposes other than titillation.  One can even acknowledge that while admitting to a personal distaste for them, if one is so inclined.

Yes, apologies if I confused anyone, but Scattercat has the right (or at least the intention) of what I was saying. I pulled DToland's quote because I think that particular stance is fine. But I don't believe it's exactly what Seraphim was suggesting.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 12, 2010, 11:46:04 PM
No, because I'm sure you've seen numerous others eat oranges to no ill effect and often to their health and refreshment. Your experience directs you to avoid oranges because they hurt you. I avoid sexually graphic materials because I know they hurt me. But this is not the same thing though it seems so on the surface.  Had you said just because every time you eat rat poison it makes you sick should you believe that it makes every man sick that would not be unreasonable.  You are reasoning from your humanity to the humanity of others.  What harms you as a human being might well harm others and unless given reason to think otherwise, it is better to err on the side of caution.

We all reason from our experience. If over my years I had noticed that while I was injured by my contact with explicit materials others suffered no ill effects then our conversation here would be different.  But my own experience leads me to regard such things more as rat poison to my fellowman and not just oranges. I've never seen anyone made the better, more noble, more gracious, wiser, more loyal or more kind because they do not refrain from such "literature." Where I've seen discernible effect it has always been to the negative. Their characters were not nourished, but rather coarsened...so I reason from this observation it is an "entertainment" best left alone.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: eytanz on July 13, 2010, 12:01:48 AM
We all reason from our experience. If over my years I had noticed that while I was injured by my contact with explicit materials others suffered no ill effects then our conversation here would be different.  But my own experience leads me to regard such things more as rat poison to my fellowman and not just oranges. I've never seen anyone made the better, more noble, more gracious, wiser, more loyal or more kind because they do not refrain from such "literature." Where I've seen discernible effect it has always been to the negative. Their characters were not nourished, but rather coarsened...so I reason from this observation it is an "entertainment" best left alone.

I am afraid, then, that this is a futile discussion for us to be having - I cannot convince you that my nature has not been harmed by exposure to sex in literature and other forms of art and entertainment, and you cannot convince me that it has; if for no better reason than you haven't had the opportunity to get any direct insight to my character beyond a handful of my posts, and I lack the ability to judge myself objectively.

Furthermore, regardless of whether you are correct or not about the influence of sexually explicit art on my nature, we have the other gulf between us, that of our values - while I think we would use a lot of the same words to describe what we each think of as laudable qualities in ourselves and our fellow men, I am not at all sure we would mean the same thing. As long as you view some things I consider to be positives as negatives, and as long as I view some things you consider to be positive as negative in turn, we are hardly going to agree on the relative merit of art or anything else for that matter. And I have little reason to believe either of us will be likely to change our values.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: FireTurtle on July 13, 2010, 12:15:47 AM
I am not chiming in with an opinion. I have one, as does everybody else, regarding this topic but I don't see anything positive coming from me throwing in my two cents at the end of a very long and ultimately stale-mated discussion.

I just want to say that I have enjoyed reading this thread as much as I have enjoyed reading anything about humanity in the past year or so. The opinions expressed were well thought out and ultimately, for me, very affirming. (Some more so than others  :) )

I am glad to see so many people digging deep into our literary past to find such fabulous examples and generally proud to be part of such an awesome community where such a discussion is possible.

Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: eytanz on July 13, 2010, 12:16:38 AM
Oh, I should point out that I am not, as a general rule, particularly fond of explicit sex in literature. But that's not because I feel there's anything inherently wrong with it, but because, most of the time, descriptions of sex are boring. There are certainly exceptions, but I definitely think that holds of most literary sex scenes I've read.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 12:37:05 AM
Personally, I prefer to be open to viewing anything, and THEN render judgment afterward as to whether it was worthwhile and whether I should incorporate any of its points or meanings into my worldview and lifestyle.  To the pure, all things are pure; one can examine anything and determine if it has a value in one's own life.  The claim that some actions are somehow magical and have power to corrupt in and of themselves makes almost no sense to me. 

And by the way, Seraphim, if you ate rat poison and got sick and concluded rat poison is bad for everyone, you would be just as wrong as eytanz believing oranges are toxic because he's allergic.  To reach a conclusion based only on personal experience is not a sound logical progression.  As eytanz said, you dislike sexual representations, and that's fine, but you're generalizing from that to say that EVERYONE is harmed by exposure to sexual representations, and that's illogical.  I've certainly not been harmed by my consumption of a variety of literature of a vast range of content levels.  I read, I consider, and I render a judgment afterward as to whether it was worthwhile.

I actually agree that most portrayals of sex in literature and movies are not necessary in and of themselves, and probably a majority are just there for the titillation value.  But I do NOT extrapolate from that that ALL such scenes are worthless, and thus I am able to read things like "Spar" that use explicit, coarse, and shocking language to make a tremendously deep and emotionally valuable point.  Any decision that shuts off entire avenues of thought or action are troubling. 

Take something else that I violently dislike: torture.  I cannot abide things like "Saw" and its ilk, and I find the portrayals of gruesome imagery to be almost completely without value other than shock and titillation.  But I do not dismiss a story or movie or what-have-you solely on the basis of it containing gruesome violence.  I watch/read/listen to it, I consider how it used the shocking material and what purpose it served, and THEN I decide if it was worthless or not.  I am personally unlikely to ever be convinced that torture is a good or useful tool in the real world, but I am willing to listen to arguments to the contrary and view art that uses something I regard as deeply taboo in order to judge it on its own merits.  Just because most of the time I am disappointed, disgusted, and dismiss the item afterward doesn't mean that there aren't stories like "Sultan of Meat" or "The Sounds That Come After Screaming" that really make me think and consider my own positions.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 13, 2010, 01:35:26 AM
Wow. A lot happened while I was driving my fiancée around and picking up a couple of new books. That's the internet for you. There's so much to respond to!

First of all, I'd like to respond to Seraphim's assertion, which I'll just quote in full:

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My question is what will be the next cultural barrier to fall in the name of personal freedom and artistic expression.  Anyone remember the movie L.I.E., a "heartwarming", though not graphic story of a kid in trouble befriended and helped by the local neighborhood pedophile. You love who you love, right...whose's too judge.  Today's well that's just obviously wrong is tomorrow's who gives you the right to tell me how to live.  How long before NAMBLA is just the next "social group" fighting for its members' "rights."  Today the notion of what they stand for is still taboo. But yesterday openly gay living was taboo, and the day before that cursing children were taboo, and the week before that adultery and fornication were taboo as was divorce without substantive cause, a month ago public religious life still received at least token public respect. So will NAMBLA remain taboo tomorrow or the day after? Should they...who has the right to say? We are not a culture comfortable any longer with the notion that some things are none of our business and some things make for a better society if made taboo for all

This is a very dangerous and patently false idea. It's a truism in the world of philosophy that "slippery slope" arguments - that we need to make a stand now and here because if we don't things might change even more - generally fail. This is why: every line is artificial, every standard is invented, and life is, was, and always will be unfair, unsafe, and uncertain. You have no sacred and unalienable rights; rights you take for granted are alienated all over the place, and you're just lucky to live in a relatively nice place and time, compared to elsewhere and before.

That's not to say, by the way, that I view it as foolish to adopt the view that certain rights are inherent and inalienable. That's a very useful and productive worldview. I'm just saying that it's foolish to assume that your framework is universally true when a broad view of space and time show you that it isn't. The point is that all lines are arbitrary and it's frankly foolish to argue "oh no! We can't move the line! We might move it more in the future!" because you or your ancestors were the one who invented that line in the first place.

Anyway, I'm digressing. My point is this: we (in [parts of] America) are moving (right now) in a direction of being more permissive. Is this good or bad? While Seraphim is eager to point at profanity and NAMBLA, there are other benefits of the future we may or may not be towards such as...


Let's not forget that the same glorious past Seraphim is talking about, a time when certain things were seen as "taboo" and "private," was a time of great oppression and suffering. This was a time when if you were a woman who was oriented towards other woman, your sexuality was "taboo" and you would be expected to suffer in "private." This was a time when if you had the misfortune to be born a Jew, you would be expected to keep your religion "private" because acknowledging it in public was "taboo." This was a time that speaking out and demanding equal rights and equal opportunities as an African American was "taboo."

And let's not forget that "taboo" is often enforced with either formal violence (the law) or informal community violence (the mob).

I'm not saying that putting the word "fuck" in a science fiction story is on par with the struggle of gay rights, women's rights, racial rights, or religious rights activists throughout history. I'd just like to put our "deplorable" modern world in context here. We are currently living in a world where a Jewish man (myself) can get a job teaching at a public school. We are currently living in a world where a gay man (my best friend) can someday hope to live openly with a partner he loves. We are currently living in a world where a female (my fiancée) can work outside the home without social stigma. All of these things are thanks to the same social forces that Seraphim decries - a change in what is seen as "right" and "proper," an alteration in what is "taboo" and what is accepted.

So don't tell me - a Jew, a woman's partner, a gay man's best friend - that we can't change where we draw the line between right and wrong. Don't say that unless you're willing to back it up.

Wow, that got vehement :-\.

Anyway, my opinion? We live in a world of constant change, both good and bad. Take a stand for the world you want, but do so by pushing the merits of that world, not decrying the very concept of change.

What are the merits of the world I want? I'm afraid that will have to wait. My fiancee and I are having a logistics kerfuffle and I need to put the internet down for a while.

To be continued...
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 03:12:31 AM
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I am afraid, then, that this is a futile discussion for us to be having - I cannot convince you that my nature has not been harmed by exposure to sex in literature and other forms of art and entertainment, and you cannot convince me that it has; if for no better reason than you haven't had the opportunity to get any direct insight to my character beyond a handful of my posts, and I lack the ability to judge myself objectively.

Why does this make the conversation necessarily futile? Are you out to change my mind? I'm not out to change yours, though I would welcome it if you came to change it on your own. I am out why I feel as I do on this subject, but not to change anyone's mind. When was the last time you ever encountered any argument however correct that actually changed someone's take on an issue important to them? Not many I bet. But I would wager you might have encountered a person here or who found some substance in some point you made, and in time it made a difference in how they thought or acted on that subject.

Consider this "story" from the life of Madam L'Engle. Back in the 70s she and her family moved to a small town in New England, they ended up running a mom and pop store for a while and had gotten involved in the community, which was very old...one of those places you sort of had to be from there four or five generations back to ever be from there in any meaningful sense. So this new family moves to town, very brassy in their manners, very "in your face" with there money and urbanity...never quite finding the knack of fitting in.  One of the old members of the town, a cigar chewing old codger who was on the volunteer fire department and who never had a kind word to say about spoke openly (out of the other family's presence) how he would gladly let their house burn to the ground just to get them out of town they were such an annoyance.  Now, Ms L'Engle found this man's overt hostility very off-putting though she largely share his opinion of the new family.  Well, not long before this family did move, despairing of ever fitting in their house did catch fire in the middle of the night. The same old man who had nothing good to say about them, risked his and badly burned his hands rescuing their two children from a back bedroom.  That taught Ms. L'Engle a very important lesson in judging people's character.

I learned a similar lesson from my grandfather, a man for whom the "N" word was common part of his speech, as it was for pretty much everyone else of his generation and that of my parents. He even had a little black dog called "N"boy. Now his use of the term was rarely what might be called hateful...but in my teen years I found it increasingly embarrassing. One day during the heights of the civil rights controversy, desegregation of the schools and all that a group of black people showed up at our community's little white Baptist Church and at the end of the service came forward and asked to be received as members.  An emergency meeting of the deacons and men of the church was instantly called. It looked very much like they were there just to make some kind of scene or social point, and the potential for community scandal was very great. Some thought they were just trouble makers and didn't "N"s in church with them anyway, but my grandfather argued that if they were Christian, and sincere in their desire to be part of our fellowship we had now moral or scriptural grounds to turn them away if we considered ourselves to be Christian as well. If we did then we would be guilty before God. If however they were there as a matter of show and not in sincerity, then there was likewise no harm since if they could not create a fuss then they would go away. The vote was then put to the congregation with the recommendation they be accepted. Most in the congregation voted to accept them into fellowship.  The aftermath was interesting to watch. They came back for one or two more Sundays and then were never seen again.  The deacons who voted against them all died of cancer within 4 years. My grandfather lived well into his 80s.

What's my point...conversations, even disagreements do not need to be about convincing anyone of anything...that's just old time Puritan missionary zeal in secular drag. A conversation...even where there is strong disagreement can be a way to get past the labels we wear and paste with such liberal abandon, and actually get to know one another. How else to we learn that our vile tempered neighbor will risk his life for us or the old racist redneck is actually a man capable of great reason and kindness.  You say I don't know...well you don't know me either...so far all we have are a few words of disagreement between us.

There is another old story, told by Elder Piaisius that there were once two friends, a honeybee and fly.  One day the fly came to the honeybee and told her about the marvelous farm she had found. There was a compost pile by the back steps and a chicken coop and barn full of fresh poop, a dead rabbit at the fence and a jug of sour milk out on the back porch. There was all kinds of glorious crap everywhere. The honey bee followed her friend back to the farm, and immediately she saw the roses blooming next to the chicken coop, the daylillies in the border, the peonies and clover blossoming in the pasture and she agreed with her friend that truly this was a place of great abundance, a feast for the eyes and body. The Elder went on to say these two friends are like the two kinds of people in the world, those who can only see the garbage in other people's lives and those who only have eyes for the beauty.  Which kind are we?  I rather think I am too often inclined to see through the eyes of the fly...but every now and again I find the grace to see through the eyes of the bee.  But how will any of us get to be the bee if we never allow ourselves the opportunity to discover the flowers blooming in the manure.

So while arguing in an effort to convince one another is doubtless futile...getting to know how each other thinks and creates however I think is quite the opposite.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 03:34:04 AM
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Personally, I prefer to be open to viewing anything, and THEN render judgment afterward as to whether it was worthwhile and whether I should incorporate any of its points or meanings into my worldview and lifestyle.  To the pure, all things are pure; one can examine anything and determine if it has a value in one's own life.  The claim that some actions are somehow magical and have power to corrupt in and of themselves makes almost no sense to me. 

The question I have about such things is how often do you remain open before you feel you have sufficient information to make an informed judgment.  Do you test every lit match and glowing range to see if fire is still hot this time around?  It's not magic that fire is still hot after at least a 1000 trials. Why should it be different for other things? Making generalizations is part of how we reason...how we survive. If we approached every experience as unique, disconnected, uninformed by any other experience we would never make it out of diapers. Certainly we test the new, we give something different a chance by such lights as we have, but at some point our evaluation ends and a conclusion is made, a judgement is reached and the issue is closed unless there arises some compelling cause to revisit it.  I don't need many experiments with fire to know that it is hot, or poop to know that it stinks, or certain kinds of "literature" to know it is offensive to me.  As for the claim about magic corrupting actions...let's take for an example some other types of actions.

Let's say your kid is a sugar junkie...ice cream, cookies, sodas, cake, pie, candy...yum yum yum yum yum. Every time that child has opportunity he's reaching to shove more sugar in his face.  You say honey, too much sugar is bad for you, it will make you sick.  He says, "Oh, mom, you're so old fashioned...as if eating cookies had some magical power to hurt me...you're not making sense mom." Or if he sits in front of his first person shooter computer games all day. "Honey you will warp your mind with all that violence, go out and play in the yard."  "Oh mom, its not hurting me a bit.....one sec while I blow the crap out of these villagers...there...mom get with the 21 century, you and your magical thinking, geez."
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 04:05:42 AM
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This is a very dangerous and patently false idea. It's a truism in the world of philosophy that "slippery slope" arguments - that we need to make a stand now and here because if we don't things might change even more - generally fail. This is why: every line is artificial, every standard is invented, and life is, was, and always will be unfair, unsafe, and uncertain. You have no sacred and unalienable rights; rights you take for granted are alienated all over the place, and you're just lucky to live in a relatively nice place and time, compared to elsewhere and before.

I would not agree that every standard is invented. I will agree that life is unfair, unsafe, and often uncertain.  I do not agree that we have no inalienable rights. The rights are not inalienable because others may exercise such power over us as to preclude their expression...if you follow the reasoning of the Declaration of Independence they are inalienable because they are inseparable from our humanity as given us by the Creator.  It was because those rights were being trodden upon wholesale that the founding fathers of the U.S. thought they had just cause to declare their independence from Great Britain.  When the exercise of these inherent rights are frustrated then we as human beings are frustrated and seek remedy. 

That said, it seems you reason from the perspective that all points...every line/standard is ultimately subjective and to one degree or another is ever shifting in relation to every other point and line.  I do not reason from that perspective. There are absolute truths external to humanity and against which humanity can measure itself, either rising towards or falling from.  How these truths find expression from culture to culture can vary...shift and change because we do live as creatures whose very existence is predicated on change else babies would never become adults.

Lets take a very old pan cultural rule...The guest is sacred.  How different cultures give expression to that is varied...but hospitality making extraordinary demand is pretty near universal. For example, in one place hospitality is to give a tiny meal in the midst of precisely choreographed ritual to suggest perfection through imperfection and eternity through the ephemeral. In another place a great feast is laid. In another if they like you and want to stay your teacup will never be more than half full.  Indeed in the roots of our own culture we have the expression "to give the cold shoulder" which was what was set out for less than welcome guests expecting some show of hospitality. Now the opposite of that is "killing the fatted calf"...giving the best for the most welcomed guest. Through every iteration there is the expectation that the guest is to be treated well even if in reality the guest is not necessarily wanted.

So while I might agree slippery slope arguments can be overplayed, I don't agree that they are necessarily false, indeed they are as often as not useful in setting appropriate boundaries.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Swamp on July 13, 2010, 04:18:50 AM
I just want to go on record as saying that I like sex.  It's a lot of fun and is an essential component to deeper relationships.  I also feel that, for the most part, it should be private.  I don't feel, however, that sex should be stricken from books, or other media.  In general, I try to filter what images and content I fill my brain with; and I wish it wasn't the prevading facet of most media.

I don't plan on debating much in this discussion.  I will say that while I don't agree to the full extent of which Seraphim has been saying, I agree with the sentiment behind his words.  As a religious person, I don't believe that most moral lines are artificial, or contrived.  Many of them are eternal in nature.  I believe it is morally convenient to say there is no standard.

Do I believe pornography (or sexually explicit content) is spiritualy harmful?  Yes.  Do I begrudge people their oppotunity to partake of that if they want to?  No.  Unfortunately, it doesn't stop there.  It is becoming so invasive that one cannot escape it without becoming a shut-in.  Partakers say "Good.  It's about time those sexually repressed moralist grow up and face their fear of sex."  I don't fear sex.  I don't run from any mention of it.  I read and watch most things, but if it's obviuosly explicit, I try to avoid it.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 13, 2010, 04:41:45 AM
That said, it seems you reason from the perspective that all points...every line/standard is ultimately subjective and to one degree or another is ever shifting in relation to every other point and line.  I do not reason from that perspective. There are absolute truths external to humanity and against which humanity can measure itself, either rising towards or falling from.  How these truths find expression from culture to culture can vary...shift and change because we do live as creatures whose very existence is predicated on change else babies would never become adults.

I'd like to take that comment out and examine it. Absolute truths, external to humanity. That sounds nice, but what does it really mean? What are those absolute truths and where do they come from? Be specific, please.

You see, I agree that there are certain extremely common moral standards. They are extremely common because they are generally good ideas. They usually amount to some variation of the sentiment: "you are only on this world for a short time, so play nice." We all agree to this general standard, at least in theory, because it's a good idea. It greases the social wheels, makes fights less common, makes the world a better place. I think we agree that these common moral standards exist, though we have different ideas about where they come from: I think they're just good ideas, and therefore common, while you posit an external, nonhuman source.

To bring the conversation full circle, however, where exactly do these basic moral standards - play nice, don't kill people unless you really have to, don't take what isn't yours - relate to the degree of sex found in fiction?

Lets take a very old pan cultural rule...The guest is sacred.  How different cultures give expression to that is varied...but hospitality making extraordinary demand is pretty near universal. For example, in one place hospitality is to give a tiny meal in the midst of precisely choreographed ritual to suggest perfection through imperfection and eternity through the ephemeral. In another place a great feast is laid. In another if they like you and want to stay your teacup will never be more than half full.  Indeed in the roots of our own culture we have the expression "to give the cold shoulder" which was what was set out for less than welcome guests expecting some show of hospitality. Now the opposite of that is "killing the fatted calf"...giving the best for the most welcomed guest. Through every iteration there is the expectation that the guest is to be treated well even if in reality the guest is not necessarily wanted.

Yes, it's true. Lots of - though not all - cultures adhere to the standard of the sacred guest.

See above, re: specificity, though. Just because a lot of cultures share an idea doesn't mean that it comes form an external, nonhuman source.

So while I might agree slippery slope arguments can be overplayed, I don't agree that they are necessarily false, indeed they are as often as not useful in setting appropriate boundaries.

This is a content-free statement.

HOW are they useful?

I assert that they are not useful, and here's why: a slippery slope argument means standing against change for the sake of stasis. It means saying "change shouldn't go further because it might eventually go to far." That's what you were saying when you said: profanity is bad because it might some day lead to the acceptance of something really terrible, like NAMBLA. THAT is why slippery slope arguments fail. If you want to successfully argue that slippery slope arguments don't fail, you need to say why.

A little personal revelation. I am also a religious person; as I wrote earlier, I'm a Jew. However, I have accepted that the revelations that are the basis of my people's religious law are not universal. I don't have the power - much less the right - to make anyone else accept them. I think the sooner members of other religious communities stop pretending that their values are universal - that the revelations that form the bases of their values - the sooner we can stop fighting over stupid stuff and get down to building the world that we deserve. If you want to argue a point to a diverse audience, you need to make it based on something truly universal, or at least common - language, argument, rhetoric - not something specific to your individual or group/cultural experience.

Think of it this way. If I told you that I'd had an experience external to humanity - an alien told me that porn is good - you'd look at me like I was a lone nut. If I and a hundred of my friends told you we'd had that experience, you'd call me a cult leader. This is right and proper, because I'm basing an argument on an experience you don't share. Why do you imagine that anyone should treat you differently just because your external experience happened a long time ago and has garnered some more followers?

So what I want to hear before this conversation ends is some content-full argument in favor of avoiding sex in literature. Not an argument that refers to a spurious past. Not an argument that falls back on a non-universal, non-human source, and not an argument that relies on a weird view of cause and effect. An argument that rests on its own merits.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 06:23:48 AM
I don't need many experiments with fire to know that it is hot, or poop to know that it stinks, or certain kinds of "literature" to know it is offensive to me. 

And it can BE offensive to you.  But just because you find it offensive doesn't make it inherently harmful.  That's the central point that I keep trying to make here.  Look at Swamp's post; no one's arguing with him.  He doesn't like to read/watch explicit material, so he doesn't, although he's a little worried about it being forced on him by society.  (Rather needless, really; society is always forcing everything on everyone anyway.  Some centuries you get the b'ar, etc.)

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He says, "Oh, mom, you're so old fashioned...as if eating cookies had some magical power to hurt me...you're not making sense mom."

Again, show me some sort of concrete evidence that the mere viewing of explicit sex scenes in movies or books causes harm to me.  I say such things are harmful only when used in a harmful manner.  If I watch porn until I'm desensitized and unable to interact with actual sexual partners without its assistance, then I have caused myself harm.  However, viewing pornography periodically for brief pleasure causes no harm to myself.  (Though one might argue whether or not it harms the participants.  Annie Sprinkle is worth a read in that arena.)  And that's pornography, which is specifically sex and nudity with NO other purpose than titillation.  You're arguing that ANY explicit sex scene, regardless of artistic merit, is the equivalent of a porn addiction in causing real harm to its consumers.  This makes no sense to me.

Eating sugar to excess does indeed lead to obesity, diabetes, etc.  Does that mean one should avoid eating any sugar at all?  Given that sugar is one of the things our bodies run on, that would quickly end up in an equally harmful place.  You'd either have to find some sort of nutritional workaround or justify the eating of "some" sugar, the "right kind" of sugar.  In the same way, explicit sex scenes can be used well, artistically, even brilliantly... but if you bar them all on the grounds that you might end up a porn addict hiding in the woods with a Sears catalog, then you're going to miss out.


Also, eating sugar -> obesity/diabetes is not magical thinking.  Characters saying "fuck" -> the end of civilization is.  The former has proof.  The latter, not so much.

BTW, just to add on to ElectricPaladin's point about the moving line, I'd like to point out that in ye olden times in Greece, it was considered perfectly normal and healthy for young adolescent boys to have sexual relations with older men.  It was just a phase, a part of growing up and developing.  So technically, the pedophiles already won and we can all stop worrying about this incipient destruction of society that will come when the boogeyman pedophiles use gay marriage sex scenes in literature dating back to 4000 BC 2000 BC 1902 1950 this year's Hugo nominations to rule the world.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 07:06:01 AM
Ok EP...I was trying to avoid this particular line of conversation, but it seems you are pressing for it so here it is.

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I'd like to take that comment out and examine it. Absolute truths, external to humanity. That sounds nice, but what does it really mean? What are those absolute truths and where do they come from? Be specific, please.

Very simply stated, God, in whose image we are created, unto whose likeness we are called.  In short Truth is a Person not an ideation.  Truths are particular expressions of the person and character of The Person as filtered and understood within the context of human experience.  

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See above, re: specificity, though. Just because a lot of cultures share an idea doesn't mean that it comes form an external, nonhuman source.
The more universal ones do point in that direction though.

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HOW are they useful?
The same way guard rails are useful at keeping you from plunging off a cliff on a mountain road. You can choose to ignore the railing, but you do so knowing you are about to enter territory generally conceded to be dangerous if not deadly.

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Think of it this way. If I told you that I'd had an experience external to humanity - an alien told me that porn is good - you'd look at me like I was a lone nut. If I and a hundred of my friends told you we'd had that experience, you'd call me a cult leader. This is right and proper, because I'm basing an argument on an experience you don't share. Why do you imagine that anyone should treat you differently just because your external experience happened a long time ago and has garnered some more followers?

A valid point, but here's the tricky bit, I don't simply regard this external experience as just happening a long time ago, but rather to be extant, present, and ongoing. The larger question here though is how do you know what sets of purported experience are in fact genuine and authoritative rather either patently false or purely delusional lacking any correlative experience oneself.  I'm not sure this is the appropriate sort of forum to explore that question too deeply.  If though I may hint where I think an appropriate illustrative analogy abides, it is agricultural...things reproduce according to their own kind, chickens from chickens, figs from figs. What cannot reproduce itself according to its purported root and origin doesn't make a very convincing case of any longer if ever being attached to that root.

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So what I want to hear before this conversation ends is some content-full argument in favor of avoiding sex in literature. Not an argument that refers to a spurious past. Not an argument that falls back on a non-universal, non-human source, and not an argument that relies on a weird view of cause and effect. An argument that rests on its own merits.

I'll try, but if you a priori exclude the pool cues you can't expect much of a game of billiards.  Some preconditions are biased against useful answers, like proving one is not a witch by a the sustained evidence of not floating.  Let me begin by referencing a passage from the New Testament. "...whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."  But why such an admonition? Let me extend my reference by another quote, "When we see Him we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is."

I know you regard such references as non universal and hence out of play, but bear with me because I think they point to something observable about humanity beside the narrower reference of these passages themselves.  It is simply this, human beings are malleable. We become like what we expose ourselves to...sort of like food, we are what we eat. What we feed our minds and hearts effects in ways both subtle and gross...there is no avoiding it.  If you live on Whoppers absent some miracle of metabolism soon enough you will be whopper yourself.  To willingly countenance and take in all manner of visual and literary depictions of sexual activity that reduces sex to an entertainment, and often a warped and wanton entertainment shapes the way one understands and experiences sex, conforming one's perceptions more and more to whatever it is you are feeding that part of your soul.  It changes the sort of person you are, and since you are a person, how you are effects the society in which you live and other persons whom you meet and share the world with everyday.  

Consider war veterans who live years in life and death combat situations, seeing and dispensing the horror of violent death up close and personal. It effects them deeply. It is hard for many of them to every really adjust to civilian life ever again. Some get depressed, others angry, and others are all but overcome by their demons. The images of friends' bodies shattered don't go away. Crossing a line and killing a kid in a tense situation never goes away.  The sound of the torture in the night of a local by insurgents for helping you never goes away.  You are shaped by those things in ways you don't just get over.  We are malleable. We change. We cannot help but change. The best we can do is to have some say in how we change...how we meet our lives, whatever good or bad they bring to us. Whatever we trivialize, commoditize, whatever part of ourselves we alienate from its natural and highest purpose we trivialize, commoditize and alienate to one degree or another in others. And thus we deny the fulness and dignity of our own humanity.

To think on what is honest, and true, and virtuous, beautiful, and of good report is to actually engage our humanity at its best, in the context of its greatest aspiration, to acknowledge our capacity...our need for change and to make a choice so that our change as we live and grow is constantly for the better.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 07:50:04 AM
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Again, show me some sort of concrete evidence that the mere viewing of explicit sex scenes in movies or books causes harm to me.  I say such things are harmful only when used in a harmful manner. If I watch porn until I'm desensitized and unable to interact with actual sexual partners without its assistance, then I have caused myself harm. However, viewing pornography periodically for brief pleasure causes no harm to myself.
 
Does "harm" have to rise to that level to be harm. Smoking one cigarette does little harm, harm easily gotten over if it is only once or twice in a lifetime...but not if it becomes a habit...then the harm eventually becomes apparent in illnesses like emphysema or lung cancer. But to say one cigarette causes no harm is not true. It does cause harm that is just not easily perceptible in small doses. So it is with porn or other less explicit types of erotica.


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You're arguing that ANY explicit sex scene, regardless of artistic merit, is the equivalent of a porn addiction in causing real harm to its consumers.  This makes no sense to me.
I would not argue that it is necessarily the equivalent of the harm that porn does. It is not equivalent in that respect, but that is not to say there is no harm of a lesser nature associated with it.

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In the same way, explicit sex scenes can be used well, artistically, even brilliantly... but if you bar them all on the grounds that you might end up a porn addict hiding in the woods with a Sears catalog, then you're going to miss out.
  I think you might be missing something of what I'm saying...or trying to say. First I am not convinced explicit sex scenes are ever used well, artistically or not...I think the "art" argument is basically a fig leaf to excuse the "artist's" promiscuous imagination. But even if they can be, that is not sufficient reason that they should be...and it's not about risking running amok with Sear's catalog. It is about by coarsening oneself one is coarsening society.

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BTW, just to add on to ElectricPaladin's point about the moving line, I'd like to point out that in ye olden times in Greece, it was considered perfectly normal and healthy for young adolescent boys to have sexual relations with older men.  It was just a phase, a part of growing up and developing.  So technically, the pedophiles already won and we can all stop worrying about this incipient destruction of society that will come when the boogeyman pedophiles use gay marriage sex scenes in literature dating back to 4000 BC 2000 BC 1902 1950 this year's Hugo nominations to rule the world.

What...no mention of the Amsat culture...just more reference to dead white males. So are you making the argument that the standards of the ancient Greeks in this regard are perfectly acceptable.  Are you ready to put an add up on Craig's list to help find a special tutor for little Jimmy? Or is this still a taboo consideration for you? If so, why?  We can't have our cake and eat it too.  Apparently somewhere along the way a different morality with regard to buggery took root and flourished even to our own day. It's still a pretty strong one too.  If we can respect the wisdom of this cultural taboo...why be so quick to demean or overthrow other similarly rooted taboos with respect to human sexuality?  Are we actually so much better and wiser human beings than our ancestors?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: gelee on July 13, 2010, 12:57:04 PM
Oh, I should point out that I am not, as a general rule, particularly fond of explicit sex in literature. But that's not because I feel there's anything inherently wrong with it, but because, most of the time, descriptions of sex are boring. There are certainly exceptions, but I definitely think that holds of most literary sex scenes I've read.
Ditto.  I don't have a problem with sex in lit as a rule, but it usually seems like a clumsy attempt to appeal to my lizard brain and gain my interest, not unlike lovely wax models of food in restaraunt windows.  Doesn't that wax food always look just a little off?  Likewise with sex in fiction.  I've seen sex handled well, but that's certainly the exception.  I don't necessarily find it offensive, usually just pointless, and mildly insulting.  I certainly won't condemn a writer for trying to employ sex to move the story, but it annoys me to see sex used in a sensational or gratuitous way.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Alasdair5000 on July 13, 2010, 02:06:30 PM
True story.  I was at Alt Ficton a few weeks ago and attended a panel discussing how well modern SF holds its own against the classics.  The general feeling was 'Very Well Indeed' and over the course of the panel, Paul Cornell reminded me of the single worst sex scene I've ever read.  It's in the middle of Eon by greg Bear and sees World War III break out in an asteroid with an eternal tunnel in it and at one point the hero has to do something very complicated or they'll all die.

So, as Cornell points out, to relax him, the female lead has sex with him.

In the tunnel.

Whilst the war's going on relatively nearby.

It isn't good and the reason it isn't good is it has no context beyond 'And now they have sex'.  Sex in context, sex as a lens through which you can view characters and actions and consequence?  Is a startlingly useful narrative tool, it's just one that's not used particularly well.   For me, 'Spar' uses it in a way which is practical and Earthy and horrific and very, very honest, exploring loss and bereavement and survival through it.  But, with this as with everything, different people will bring different viewpoints to the story.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Unblinking on July 13, 2010, 02:38:39 PM
I'd argue that the naughty, sweaty, bestial, naughty bits are a proud part of the Western literary tradition. Let's see...

You didn't mention the Canterbury Tales!  Particularly the Reeve's Tale.  The kissing scene in that story would not make it past the ratings boards these days.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 03:25:35 PM
So the harm that sex scenes cause is only visible to you, and the rest of us are just deluding ourselves that we can see meaning and depth in things like "Spar."  Oh, and we're LYING about it to you, including right now, because we're just SO horny and addicted to the sexytimes.  Got it.

And I'm not advocating that we return to pedophilia as a way of life.  I'm pointing out that OTHER cultures have not had our same taboos.  Why are OUR taboos special and theirs just mistaken, wrong-headed, or devilish?

ETA: To clarify, I can provide a coherent argument about why pedophilia is a bad idea without just repeating "because it's wrong" until I explode in a tautological frenzy.  I'm still waiting for anything like that in reference to sex scenes in literature, whether trashy or artistic.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Talia on July 13, 2010, 03:37:27 PM
It's true. Too much exposure to sex has turned my brain to mush, and now I do nothing but run around naked and/or roll around in big piles of Playgirl magazines.

If only someone had warned me sooner!

:p
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 04:19:27 PM
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So the harm that sex scenes cause is only visible to you, and the rest of us are just deluding ourselves that we can see meaning and depth in things like "Spar."  Oh, and we're LYING about it to you, including right now, because we're just SO horny and addicted to the sexytimes.  Got it.

I don't think I said anything remotely like that. I did say, just because you do not see harm until something reaches a particular threshold does not mean no harm was being done before then...after all a bucket fills drop by drop.

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And I'm not advocating that we return to pedophilia as a way of life.  I'm pointing out that OTHER cultures have not had our same taboos.  Why are OUR taboos special and theirs just mistaken, wrong-headed, or devilish?

I didn't imagine that you were...but as to why, now you are asking my question.

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ETA: To clarify, I can provide a coherent argument about why pedophilia is a bad idea without just repeating "because it's wrong" until I explode in a tautological frenzy.  I'm still waiting for anything like that in reference to sex scenes in literature, whether trashy or artistic.

I thought I provided that in reply to EP above.  And to reiterate with respect to "artistic sex scenes" that justify their presence in a story worth telling. If they exist, I've not encountered them. Every sex scene I have encountered was entirely skippable without damage to the rest of the story...unless of course the story was primarily about graphic sex and then I'm not interested a priori.  Some such scenes work better, and are less offensive than others...such as the 1984 example provided by another poster, but that one was pretty clinical, and had it been absent and its point replaced by a little after the fact exposition the story would have been none the worse for it.   

So with respect to such depictions in art and literature, regardless of their supposed artistic merit otherwise, I don't want those images and ideas bouncing around my head or being pondered in my heart. I am narrow minded and thus am particular about what I want sitting on the furniture in my mental living room.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 13, 2010, 04:29:46 PM
True story.  I was at Alt Ficton a few weeks ago and attended a panel discussing how well modern SF holds its own against the classics.  The general feeling was 'Very Well Indeed' and over the course of the panel, Paul Cornell reminded me of the single worst sex scene I've ever read.  It's in the middle of Eon by greg Bear and sees World War III break out in an asteroid with an eternal tunnel in it and at one point the hero has to do something very complicated or they'll all die.

So, as Cornell points out, to relax him, the female lead has sex with him.

In the tunnel.

Whilst the war's going on relatively nearby.

It isn't good and the reason it isn't good is it has no context beyond 'And now they have sex'.  Sex in context, sex as a lens through which you can view characters and actions and consequence?  Is a startlingly useful narrative tool, it's just one that's not used particularly well.   For me, 'Spar' uses it in a way which is practical and Earthy and horrific and very, very honest, exploring loss and bereavement and survival through it.  But, with this as with everything, different people will bring different viewpoints to the story.

Yeah, I think this is the reason most of us can agree that often in SF/literature sex is used for titillation, and that's not so great, it's generally just embarrasing.

There are times when a story doesn't need to go there - can do just as much in a sentence as it could in a chapter. For example, one of my favorite chapters (in its entirety) from Cory Doctorow's Eastern Standard Tribe:
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Vigorous sex ensued.

Hilarious, right? I remember cracking up the first time I read it, and again when I listened to it.

That said, I agree with Al about "Spar," and continue to disagree that sex more graphic than the above chapter is only used for titillation and does not have a place in SF/Literature. I think "Spar" is a story that could not be told without the sex. It may not be a story that some people want to listen to (and again - I don't think anyone's arguing with that decision - I've got a ton of respect for Swamp in general, and I respect someone who can say - No, I don't think this is for me), but it would be a patently different story without the sex. Which I think is where this discussion stemmed from.

My question is what will be the next cultural barrier to fall in the name of personal freedom and artistic expression.  Anyone remember the movie L.I.E., a "heartwarming", though not graphic story of a kid in trouble befriended and helped by the local neighborhood pedophile. You love who you love, right...whose's too judge.  Today's well that's just obviously wrong is tomorrow's who gives you the right to tell me how to live.  How long before NAMBLA is just the next "social group" fighting for its members' "rights."  Today the notion of what they stand for is still taboo. But yesterday openly gay living was taboo, and the day before that cursing children were taboo, and the week before that adultery and fornication were taboo as was divorce without substantive cause, a month ago public religious life still received at least token public respect. So will NAMBLA remain taboo tomorrow or the day after? Should they...who has the right to say? We are not a culture comfortable any longer with the notion that some things are none of our business and some things make for a better society if made taboo for all.

I have some serious issues with this, and I sincerely hope I'm not reading it right. I hope that it's not really a suggestion that allowing people to live openly gay will somehow lead this particular slippery slope where we have a mass explosion of pedophilia, and that then we'll all just shrug pedophilia off. As a Christian, I find that suggestion a bit offensive. Especially when you consider, as EP mentioned, the other social change that's ocurred in tangent with the lifting of "taboos".

Like I said, I do hope I'm not reading that right.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 13, 2010, 04:50:35 PM
Ok EP...I was trying to avoid this particular line of conversation, but it seems you are pressing for it so here it is... Very simply stated, God, in whose image we are created, unto whose likeness we are called...

In a sense, yes. I was pushing for this. I could see it was there, beneath the surface, and I wanted it out in the open where we could all talk about it. Call me manipulative, but your making religious arguments without owning up to your religious biases made the conversation

I'll try, but if you a priori exclude the pool cues you can't expect much of a game of billiards.

This statement is incredibly problematic. By insisting that you need to use principles that we share, rather than insist that we use principles we don't share, I'm making it impossible for you to make your point? Frankly, if you can't make your point using shared principles, you don't deserve to make it.

Let me respond to your metaphor with a metaphor of my own: I'm saying that we should discuss this issue using shared values and methods (rhetoric, language, evidence) and you are saying you can't debate this without resorting to personal and cultural principles (God, culture, religion). I want us to play soccer because we both know and accept the validity of the rules; you want to play curling, even though a lot of people don't understand the game.

This is why I brought up the other cultural views of sex and stressed how my view of sex is clearly different from yours. This is why Scattercat talked about Greek pederasty. If we establish that there are cultures in time and space that don't share your values, what we've just done is invalidated any arguments that treat your values as universal.

Now, if you want to argue your values without falling back on non-universal concepts... well, that's what I've been trying to get you to do all along ;).

A valid point, but here's the tricky bit, I don't simply regard this external experience as just happening a long time ago, but rather to be extant, present, and ongoing. The larger question here though is how do you know what sets of purported experience are in fact genuine and authoritative rather either patently false or purely delusional lacking any correlative experience oneself.  I'm not sure this is the appropriate sort of forum to explore that question too deeply.  If though I may hint where I think an appropriate illustrative analogy abides, it is agricultural...things reproduce according to their own kind, chickens from chickens, figs from figs. What cannot reproduce itself according to its purported root and origin doesn't make a very convincing case of any longer if ever being attached to that root.

I understand what you mean about extant, present, and ongoing revelation (though your stressing that point makes me wonder if you're not just a Christian, but a Mormon - ah, whatever, it's not an important detail). However, I'd argue that by asking how to know if an experience is real you are asking the wrong question.

A special, personal or cultural experience is not something you will ever prove. That's why it makes a poor basis for conversation with people who don't already share your values or background. You can never prove God to me because God, but God's nature, is not something I can see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. You can't show me God on a graph or a chart. You can't dial up God and have God talk to me God's self. You can try to convince me of the utility of God, you can share your personal experience of God and hope that I'm touched, moved, and inspired, and I guess - for completeness's sake - you can threaten me until I accept your God. Proving God, though, is not something you or anyone can ever do.

The same way guard rails are useful at keeping you from plunging off a cliff on a mountain road. You can choose to ignore the railing, but you do so knowing you are about to enter territory generally conceded to be dangerous if not deadly.

And here, I actually agree with you, though we take our agreement in two different ways. Yes, we should consider the potential future consequences of our cultural transformations. In fact, that's what some kinds of science fiction are for ;D. We need to acknowledge when we are headed into dangerous territory so we can proceed with caution, or at least with open eyes.

However, I'd argue that every major cultural transformation we've undergone - including the almost-undeniably good ones, like civil rights, women's rights, and religious freedom - have been fraught with danger and pain. They have been textbook examples of dangerous territory, situations where we could have gone too far, where the stresses could have torn our culture apart. Luckily, they didn't. Also luckily, we didn't let the fact that they were dangerous territory stop us.

The problem with slippery slope arguments, which I didn't make as clear before, is this: they have no logical stopping point. A slippery slope argument says "you can't change this because the change might go to far and something bad might happen." But if you take that to its logical conclusion, nothing should ever change, because every change could potentially lead to something bad. In order to prevent that, you need to allow entirely arbitrary exceptions to your slippery slope argument, places where you decide it's ok to change. Since those exceptions are arbitrary, you need to argue them on their own merits. The slippery slope argument is nothing but a distraction, and you'd save everyone a lot of time (and go easier on your own integrity) if you just made those arbitrary arguments themselves.

So, a slippery slope argument can caution caution, but it isn't enough by itself to determine action.

Again, you eventually need to make an argument that stands on its own merits.

It is simply this, human beings are malleable. We become like what we expose ourselves to...sort of like food, we are what we eat. What we feed our minds and hearts effects in ways both subtle and gross...there is no avoiding it.  If you live on Whoppers absent some miracle of metabolism soon enough you will be whopper yourself.To willingly countenance and take in all manner of visual and literary depictions of sexual activity that reduces sex to an entertainment, and often a warped and wanton entertainment shapes the way one understands and experiences sex, conforming one's perceptions more and more to whatever it is you are feeding that part of your soul.  It changes the sort of person you are, and since you are a person, how you are effects the society in which you live and other persons whom you meet and share the world with everyday.

Consider war veterans who live years in life and death combat situations, seeing and dispensing the horror of violent death up close and personal. It effects them deeply. It is hard for many of them to every really adjust to civilian life ever again. Some get depressed, others angry, and others are all but overcome by their demons. The images of friends' bodies shattered don't go away. Crossing a line and killing a kid in a tense situation never goes away.  The sound of the torture in the night of a local by insurgents for helping you never goes away.  You are shaped by those things in ways you don't just get over.  We are malleable. We change. We cannot help but change. The best we can do is to have some say in how we change...how we meet our lives, whatever good or bad they bring to us. Whatever we trivialize, commoditize, whatever part of ourselves we alienate from its natural and highest purpose we trivialize, commoditize and alienate to one degree or another in others. And thus we deny the fulness and dignity of our own humanity.

To think on what is honest, and true, and virtuous, beautiful, and of good report is to actually engage our humanity at its best, in the context of its greatest aspiration, to acknowledge our capacity...our need for change and to make a choice so that our change as we live and grow is constantly for the better.

Aha! Now, this is something I can sink my teeth into. Thank you!

Let me see if I can boil your point down to its barest bones:

This is actually a very coherent worldview. I'm curious to what degree you live it every day - do you really only eat only healthy food? Avoid all violence and nastiness? Refuse to associate with foul-mouthed and base-minded individuals? - because it seems like it would be difficult, but that's not a question I really want to demand an answer to because it's none of my business (though if you feel like sharing...).

Ultimately, I take a different view. For me, the world is messy and full of bad stuff. I don't believe it's possible to live without consuming some bad stuff now and again. There are ways in which I live on the front lines - I'm a teacher in a very challenged neighborhood - and I don't think I could do my job if I were squeamish about exposing myself to violence, foul language, and depravity.

The more coherent view that has come out of my experience is this: the high, the sacred, and the holy (or, if you prefer, the complex, the intellectual, and the enlightening) are important, but sometimes a little of the bad stuff is fun, and sometimes the happiness it produces is valuable. Think of it this way: sometimes I want a salad and sometimes I want a cheeseburger. The rush of endorphins, the meaty goodness of the cheeseburger, is worth it. I just put the cheeseburger into weight watchers, and consider the consequences of that meal when I make other food choices throughout the week. I don't need to consume nothing but the highest, holiest, and healthiest of food to maintain a balanced lifestyle. The same applies to the books I read and the movies I watch.

But, relative to literature (and possibly a little TMI) is this anecdote: I sometimes look at porn. I like it. Now, to continue the principle above, I like my porn in balance with other sexual and visual experiences. When I start to feel a little overporned, I put the porn away. When I feel underporned, I break out the porn.

I also like my fiancée, and like I've said: sometimes she wants to be treated like a lady and sometimes she wants to be treated like a piece of meat. Ever the conscientious lover, I try to accommodate her desires. And if we feel like our spiritual connection has gotten a little strained by the demands of our lives, we make some time for spiritual and loving sex. And if we feel that our physical connection has faded, we might choose a different kind of sex from our repertoire.

More to the point, (and to totally mix everything up), when I find some porn I particularly like, I send it to my fiancée so we can talk about what's good about it and how we can add the image and actions depicted to our sex life. I view sex and literature in the same light: even the most brutal and unappealing, the most graphic and gross (and wet, bestial, noisy, and nasty) sex scene can add a lot to a story when it's done right - just like porn can add something to my sex life. I've seen it done right.

Well, that does it for me. I think I've expressed my opinion pretty coherently.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 13, 2010, 04:54:58 PM
And to reiterate with respect to "artistic sex scenes" that justify their presence in a story worth telling. If they exist, I've not encountered them. Every sex scene I have encountered was entirely skippable without damage to the rest of the story...unless of course the story was primarily about graphic sex and then I'm not interested a priori.  Some such scenes work better, and are less offensive than others...such as the 1984 example provided by another poster, but that one was pretty clinical, and had it been absent and its point replaced by a little after the fact exposition the story would have been none the worse for it.   

So with respect to such depictions in art and literature, regardless of their supposed artistic merit otherwise, I don't want those images and ideas bouncing around my head or being pondered in my heart. I am narrow minded and thus am particular about what I want sitting on the furniture in my mental living room.

This is I think the crux of the issue. While we can discuss whether or not 1984 would or would not have been a stronger book without the clinical sex (my opinion would be "No, it would not have been better if that scene had been excluded), you are not interested in reading stories with sex in them, certainly not stories about sex. Which is cool and I can totally respect that you don't want to read them. I certainly don't want you to do something you think might damage you.

I have a much more difficult time (near-impossible, let's say) agreeing that that indicates sex in literature is always pointless and only used for titillation. (I may be mistaken, but I don't think you agree that the sex in 1984 is there for titillation.) And I can't agree that all stories would be better if they excluded sex (or more than hinted at sex).
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 04:57:13 PM
I'm saying envelope pushing is not always good and our ancestors didn't get it all wrong when ordering their societies and we should be very careful, reticent even to overthrow our societal taboos just because the sophisticatti and glitterati of our age thumb their collective noses at dusty old conventions of decency. Progress is not a question of if you are moving, but in what direction you are headed.  The question of this thread has to do with sexual mores and on the whole so did my examples. With respect to your question on gay acceptance leading to the acceptance of pedophilia, it doesn't have to, but it could, the social arguments of the gay community are largely cogent and adaptable to the arguments of those who favor more tolerance on the subject of pedophilia. As such then it is a reasonable illustrative speculation on the question of scoffing our traditional social constraints.  Call it an expression of the law of unintended consequences...we don't always see how everything is connected, and if we tug at the wrong loose thread and we end up unraveling our sweaters. So just because one old convention lacked moral justification doesn't mean the next old convention is similarly lacking...and lumping an unfashionable good together with the bad so as to make both ideas seem equally reprehensible...I believe Orwell had a term for that, Crimethink.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 05:05:16 PM
So just because one old convention lacked moral justification doesn't mean the next old convention is similarly lacking...and lumping an unfashionable good together with the bad so as to make both ideas seem equally reprehensible...I believe Orwell had a term for that, Crimethink.

Says the guy who's arguing that because some sexual representations are unhealthy or inappropriate that all sexual representations are likewise unhealthy and inappropriate.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 13, 2010, 05:10:02 PM
I'm saying envelope pushing is not always good and our ancestors didn't get it all wrong when ordering their societies and we should be very careful, reticent even to overthrow our societal taboos just because the sophisticatti and glitterati of our age thumb their collective noses at dusty old conventions of decency.

I would argue that pushing the envelope is always good. Breaking it, not so much. That is, someone needs to be out there, on the front line, to force the rest of us acknowledge possibilities outside those we see every day. Also, I think you're giving our dusty old ancestors too much credit. Societies don't get ordered or planned with any kind of forethought; usually, they just kind of happen. They grow like trees, not like babies, sending off shoots and leaves and doing their best to survive.

I also think that you're falling prey to a media fallacy by referring to the "sophisticatti and glitterati." It's not just the over-educated and famous who are pushing for social change. Homosexuality, atheism, and feminism occur in all segments of our population.

With respect to your question on gay acceptance leading to the acceptance of pedophilia, it doesn't have to, but it could, the social arguments of the gay community are largely cogent and adaptable to the arguments of those who favor more tolerance on the subject of pedophilia. As such then it is a reasonable illustrative speculation on the question of scoffing our traditional social constraints.  Call it an expression of the law of unintended consequences...we don't always see how everything is connected, and if we tug at the wrong loose thread and we end up unraveling our sweaters. So just because one old convention lacked moral justification doesn't mean the next old convention is similarly lacking...and lumping an unfashionable good together with the bad so as to make both ideas seem equally reprehensible...I believe Orwell had a term for that, Crimethink.

No one is saying that we should abandon the past just because it's past. No one is saying that all "old" moral standards are bad. Just some of them.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 05:51:23 PM
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So the harm that sex scenes cause is only visible to you, and the rest of us are just deluding ourselves that we can see meaning and depth in things like "Spar."  Oh, and we're LYING about it to you, including right now, because we're just SO horny and addicted to the sexytimes.  Got it.

I don't think I said anything remotely like that. I did say, just because you do not see harm until something reaches a particular threshold does not mean no harm was being done before then...after all a bucket fills drop by drop.

You did say that, and you CONTINUE to say that.  You are saying that I am not noticing the harm because it is too small.  I am saying there is no harm unless used harmfully.  Ergo, you are claiming deeper insight than I into the effects of actions on my own psyche.

You also said that sex scenes are only because artists are horny bastards and afraid to admit it openly.  I quote:
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.I think the "art" argument is basically a fig leaf to excuse the "artist's" promiscuous imagination

Are you really going to argue that Kij Johson (http://clarkesworldmagazine.com/johnson_interview/) is such a tentacle porn fangirl that her tainted imagination runs over with the stuff, and she just had to write it down and publish it to get her jollies? 
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 13, 2010, 05:58:54 PM
With respect to your question on gay acceptance leading to the acceptance of pedophilia, it doesn't have to, but it could, the social arguments of the gay community are largely cogent and adaptable to the arguments of those who favor more tolerance on the subject of pedophilia.

Adaptable, like say, arguments for civil rights are adaptable for the rights of homosexuals and their partners/spouses? How far back does this go?

The suggestion that accepting homosexuality in society could potentially lead to accepting pedophilia in society has very little merit to it, and as far as I can see, there's no scientific evidence to back it up. And as it stands now, it's at best a disrespectful and rude suggestion.

I don't believe our ancestors got everything wrong. I also don't believe they were doing everything right. Washington owned slaves, God knows how many illegitamate children Ben Franklin had, they occasionally settled disagreements with pistol duels, etc. But I do believe they were trying to do better, and so they were pushing the envelope. In their case, for life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. But I think it's important to realize that they were flawed.

Regarding pushing the envelope - I more or less agree with the idea that it's a good idea to know where you want to go, or what you want to accomplish. In the cases above: Freedom. Civil rights. Tolerance.

Bringing this conversation back to fiction: an author should question how best to tell a story, and then tell it. If sex is relevant, then let there be sex.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DToland on July 13, 2010, 07:33:16 PM
Well, dang.  We've already reached the Teflon incline that leads from homosexuality to pedophilia?  I guess I'd better bail before Chancellor Hitler decides to drop in for a visit. :)

Sorry, but this is turning a bit too combustible for my taste.  I guess I'll go blow up a star system.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: FireTurtle on July 13, 2010, 08:03:43 PM
All this talk of sex and slipperiness. Hmmmm. Freud is laughing his head off somewhere.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 08:47:28 PM
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You did say that, and you CONTINUE to say that.  You are saying that I am not noticing the harm because it is too small.  I am saying there is no harm unless used harmfully.  Ergo, you are claiming deeper insight than I into the effects of actions on my own psyche.

No, not quite. You are the one applying the argument to your own situation. I on the other hand am speaking on what I believe to be a valid principle of evaluation.

So lets apply it to you but take it one step at a time. Do you or don't you believe that there are classes of actions/activities that are harmful but which harm is very hard if not impossible to detect on an incident by incident level, but which after a time are discernible in their cumulative effect.

My contention is that the creation and consumption of erotica is among those damaging classes of behavior.  You, I take would argue, that this is not necessarily so.

You acknowledge however that beyond a certain threshold erotica causes problems. Yet you say that within another measure below such threshold your personal experience with it has left you unharmed.  Perhaps you are right...but given that you already admit that it can cause harm, how do you know that in your case, or in the case of others it is not causing harm in a manner below a readily observable threshold?  So by what criteria do you determine no harm has been done or is being done?

Now if you say that it may cause harm...but with precautions it is enjoyable enough or has other desirable traits enough to justify limited exposure, then we are on to a different discussion.

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Are you really going to argue that Kij Johson is such a tentacle porn fangirl that her tainted imagination runs over with the stuff, and she just had to write it down and publish it to get her jollies?

No, I'm arguing that not everything that can be done should be done, and to do something that should not be done, even with great artistry does not justify the deed retroactively.  Promiscuity is not always about sex. It is often about defiance...and as often as not the two end up as bedfellows.

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you are claiming deeper insight than I into the effects of actions on my own psyche.
 I am not...at least I don't think I am, but that said, why is it such an impossibility that another person might have deeper insights into our own lives than we have developed ourselves? No one has ever crowned me the pinnacle of earthly wisdom...and I suspect that is true of a the vast majority of people. There is no doubt in my mind that others exist who may well have insights about me that I lack.

So, what I am doing is reasoning from my own humanity, my own experiences and observations about humanity to the humanity of others.  What hurts me may likely hurt others since we are all human beings. If I see what hurts me having a similar effect on enough people I know then it is not unreasonable to suppose that this hurtful thing is not isolated in its hurt to a few, but is hurtful to many.  Since I have seen people engaged in obviously well established very harmful activities/behaviors and deny that they are harming themselves or anyone else I therefore also know that it is possible to engage in destructive behaviors and be oblivious to it.  That does not make such harm automatic for all in and of itself, but it does make denials of harm have to rise to a higher standard in order to be credible on their face.

Since I don't really know you when you say you receive no harm from these exposures, the best I can do is believe that you believe you receive no harm.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 09:21:27 PM
Anything is harmful in large enough quantities.  Me agreeing that porn addiction is bad is not the same as me agreeing that porn is bad.  People can get addicted to almost anything.  It's fun to play World of Warcraft and run around doing quests for relaxation a couple of hours a week.  It's bad to do it ten hours a day and lose your job and your romantic partner and etc.  Is WoW inherently bad?  It's fun to play penny poker with your friends.  It's bad to lose your life savings on blackjack in Las Vegas.  Are playing cards inherently bad?  It's good to drink eight cups (or whatever) of water a day.  If you drink enough of it, it's poisonous and kills you.  Is water inherently bad?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 09:41:49 PM
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Adaptable, like say, arguments for civil rights are adaptable for the rights of homosexuals and their partners/spouses? How far back does this go?

Who knows. People are clever. They like getting what they want and often have little qualm at using whatever is at hand to secure what they want. If moral standards are decoupled from absolute standards, then what is not permissible? If such standards are all relative, fluid, momentary cultural snapshots on the moving train of history, then all that is necessary to guess what sort of things might be permissible next is to accurately gauge societal inertia...the direction we are headed and likely to continue heading unless turned aside by a deflecting force.  Three points define a line. As I noted in earlier an earlier post there is already evidence that our society is being primed to be more tolerant and accepting of that behavior. How long will it take? Will it fizzle? Again who knows...but the train is headed that direction and no one seems to be reaching for the brake.

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The suggestion that accepting homosexuality in society could potentially lead to accepting pedophilia in society has very little merit to it, and as far as I can see, there's no scientific evidence to back it up
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There is limited scientific evidence that homosexuality leads to pedophilia...if you are talking strictly about the prepubescent, true.  If you are talking about relations with teens, then that's a different pickle...after all our laws on age of legal consent are a mostly arbitrary cultural artifact.  In certain European countries the age of legal sexual consent is 16. What would be an illegal pedophilic relationship in the U.S. there is just two young lovers...or maybe one young and one older lover.

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And as it stands now, it's at best a disrespectful and rude suggestion.

I respect that you feel this way, but I cannot agree. I believe what the examples I've given to illustrate the desirability and usefulness of a strong notion of taboo are entirely realistic and borne out in the world. That said, my purpose in bringing up any of this was not to make any sort of comments on gay issues as such, but rather to illustrate the trajectory of our social tolerances.

And more largely, to arc back to the literary aspect of this discussion, what a tolerance for sexual promiscuity whether straight, gay, or pedo has in common is that it makes others mere appendages, feedbags for our appetites. They exist for us to satisfy our urges with or upon. We train ourselves to pant after this sort or that sort...we use and are used in turn.  It is dehumanizing. People become objects, sex toys. Literature, and other media can either validate our panting or open our eyes to what we are doing to ourselves and to each other. This was actually one of the few redeeming aspects of the movie L.I.E.  The pedophile when confronted with genuine need and not just a reciprocating appetite rose above his predatory penchants and humanized himself by actually helping without asking anything in return.  Then his jealous former boy lover shot him.

Since I don't want to be treated as an object and don't want to treat or relate to others as objects/playthings, then I am disinclined to feed/shape any appetite that could if permitted grow in that direction.  So media that appeals to those appetites and trains them in that direction are of no interest to me. By respecting my own humanity, I respect the humanity of my neighbor.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 13, 2010, 09:52:44 PM
There is limited scientific evidence that homosexuality leads to pedophilia.

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Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 10:01:43 PM
Probably does, but its part of our ersatz general knowledge that is little questioned and may be wrong...but we generally agree on it for the sake of making nice. DKT brought it up and I saw nothing in particular to be gained from arguing it since as a point of example was not that homosexuality leads to pedophilia but rather that the sociological forces that led to more tolerance towards homosexuality could eventually lead to more tolerance of pedophilia regardless of its cause.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 10:09:05 PM
EP, since you asked, for whatever it is worth, I am not a Mormon. I am Eastern Orthodox.


DToland, you wrote:
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Well, dang.  We've already reached the Teflon incline that leads from homosexuality to pedophilia?  I guess I'd better bail before Chancellor Hitler decides to drop in for a visit.

Sorry, but this is turning a bit too combustible for my taste.  I guess I'll go blow up a star system.

That's not was I was saying...as noted above I was taking about how the societal forces that led to more openness and acceptance towards one could easily in time lead to more acceptance/tolerance towards the other. I made no statement about homosexuality leading to pedophilia.

But I do agree, these are combustable issues and it does make at times for uncomfortable discussion.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: ElectricPaladin on July 13, 2010, 10:33:06 PM
There is no scientific evidence linking homosexuality to pedophilia. There is a great deal of bullshit linking homosexuality and pedophilia. The only "link" between pedophilia and homosexuality is in the minds of people who have been exposed to too much "evidence."

I'm a science teacher, so this is a matter of some passion for me. Allow me to explain.

A homosexual is someone who is attracted to members of his or her own sex, rather than members of another sex. A pedophile is someone who is attracted to children. A pedophile can be exclusively attracted to male or female children, regardless of the pedophile's own sex. A third distinction should also be made between child molesters - people who experience a sexual attraction to children and an uncontrollable need to act on that attraction - and ordinary pedophiles - people who experience this unfortunate attraction but have no need to act on it - but that's a different story.

The point is this: as a rule, people who identify as homosexual experience an attraction to same-sex adults, and people who are identified as pedophiles or child molesters experience an attraction to children. No credible studies have linked these groups. A man who molests little girls is no more heterosexual than you are; in fact, chances are that he experiences zero attraction to adults and is purely fixed on little girls or children in general. A man who molests little boys is not a homosexual; he is a pedophile. He is not attracted to adult men.

Essentially, a distinction must be made between homosexual child rape and homosexual behavior in adults. These are distinct behaviors and do not take place among the same individuals.

Source (with further attributions at the bottom of the web page): http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_chil.htm
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 13, 2010, 10:35:59 PM
DToland, you wrote:
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Well, dang.  We've already reached the Teflon incline that leads from homosexuality to pedophilia?  I guess I'd better bail before Chancellor Hitler decides to drop in for a visit.

Sorry, but this is turning a bit too combustible for my taste.  I guess I'll go blow up a star system.

That's not was I was saying...as noted above I was taking about how the societal forces that led to more openness and acceptance towards one could easily in time lead to more acceptance/tolerance towards the other. I made no statement about homosexuality leading to pedophilia.

But I do agree, these are combustable issues and it does make at times for uncomfortable discussion.

It may not be your intention, but it reads as if that's what is implied. Which is why I asked you to clarify it in the first place. And really, it feels like we're splitting hairs on this issue, or arguing semantics.

I said earlier that I find the suggestion disrespectful and rude (at best), and I suspect not only to our GLBT friends who post here, but also many others. You're certainly welcome to disagree, but I'd rather that conversation take place somewhere else than this thread or this forum in general. Feel free to PM me about if you want.

FWIW, I realize this is partially due to my calling you out on a comment in an earlier post. I find the rest of the conversation regarding sex in literature fascinating, and I do hope it continues without any unnecessary combustibles.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 10:36:54 PM
Fine, no argument from me.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 13, 2010, 11:28:40 PM
Scattercat, my apologies, the wording of my statement you quoted was too ambiguous. I meant to echo DKT's sentiments not dispute them.  I meant limited in the sense of "not much, not beyond dispute, insufficiently useful, etc." not...as in "well there is some albeit small."
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Swamp on July 14, 2010, 02:28:01 AM
Just in case it wasn't clear by what DKT said, let me put it a different way:

Any more discussion about homosexuality and/or pedophilia will not be allowed on this thread.  This discussion has gone downhill fast and I am sorry I didn't get back to it sooner.  Keep the discussion to sex in sf, liteature, or media in general.  Violaters will be prosecuted (and the thread will be locked).
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 14, 2010, 05:38:30 AM
Ok lets back this train up and try it again from the perspective of craft.  Leaving as to why we think sex scenes are or are not morally appropriate in SF and other literature, lets turn back to one point many have readily agreed upon. Love them or hate them as a matter of principle, a number of posters here have indicated that very often graphic sex scenes just don't work for the stories they embellish.  One of the  more common complaints is that they are just boring. Another is they tend to fail to move the plot or develop the characters in any significant way. They've also been known to be so tacked on they get in the way of the parts of the story the readers are interested in.

So why is this?  Why is it so hard to deal graphically with this subject in a way that is literarily engaging?

One essay I read pointed to T.S. Elliot's poem, The Hollow Men (http://poetry.poetryx.com/poems/784/)as having something to say on this issue.  Let me quote a couple of passages that struck me: First from the opening stanza:

Mistah Kurtz—he dead.

      A penny for the Old Guy

      I

We are the hollow men
We are the stuffed men
Leaning together
Headpiece filled with straw. Alas!
Our dried voices, when
We whisper together
Are quiet and meaningless
As wind in dry grass
Or rats’ feet over broken glass
In our dry cellar

Shape without form, shade without colour,
Paralysed force, gesture without motion;

Those who have crossed
With direct eyes, to death’s other Kingdom
Remember us—if at all—not as lost
Violent souls, but only
As the hollow men
The stuffed men.

Second, from the second stanza:

Let me be no nearer
In death’s dream kingdom
Let me also wear
Such deliberate disguises
Rat’s coat, crowskin, crossed staves
In a field
Behaving as the wind behaves
No nearer—

Not that final meeting
In the twilight kingdom

and finally from the last stanza:

Between the idea
And the reality
Between the motion
And the act
Falls the Shadow
                                For Thine is the Kingdom

Between the conception
And the creation
Between the emotion
And the response
Falls the Shadow
                                Life is very long

Between the desire
And the spasm
Between the potency
And the existence
Between the essence
And the descent
Falls the Shadow
                                For Thine is the Kingdom

For Thine is
Life is
For Thine is the

This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
Not with a bang but a whimper.


Notice how the cadence of the last stanza has a strongly sexual feel in its half lines and hesitations and these are coupled with religious themes signifying perhaps a thirst for some act of divine eros..of complete mutual ecstasy with the divine, and this is in turn coupled with a final note of resignation if not despair.  This last empty metaphysical groping is made understandable by the imagery of the earlier passages. "We are the hollow men. ..Stuffed men, headpieces (not heads) filled with straw. Our whispering is dry quiet and meaningless. We wear deliberate disguises and move as the wind moves, no nearer, and have eyes that dare not meet the eyes across the river.

I think there is an argument to be made that the very explicitness of graphic sex scenes is in large part what empties them, what makes them so frequently boring. They are tedious in their presentation of every phallic detail. Such a close camera voids the mystery and intimacy that makes good sex genuinely good.  It suggests all the "romance" of being in bed with a hooker cracking her gum and checking her manicure while every so often making some obligatory sex noises. Sex is not a spectator sport and moment by moment commentary like a boxing match or baseball actually diminishes if not destroys the intimacy of the scene for the reader. Whereas scenes that suggest such intimacy works better by leaving the reader's imagination to do the heavy hitting.

Consider how certain types of scenes worked in old movies. The reporters get a call with a fresh lead on the mystery bandit. They are shown grabbing their hats and coats, heading out the door with the door closing behind them. These came to be know as butt shots.  One day directors figured out they could save time and make a better film by getting rid of the butt shot...once it was established the reporters got an exciting new lead, cut to black and open at dusk on the wharf where a dodgy little man is nervously taking a final drag off his cigarette while avoiding the eyes of the two reporters. 

Graphic sex scenes have trouble working because they are effectively the overburdened butt shots of romantically/sexually important story threads.  Even if the sex scene must be cast in the negative, like with a rape...the beginning of what is about to happen, the fearful outcry of the victim, those are generally sufficient if coupled with an aftermath scene showing the brutality of what happened via bruises, lacerations, torn clothing, and the bitter distress of the one raped.  No need to dwell on the details, the butt shot because to do so is artistically hollow, self-defeating and more often than not serves little or no viable/defensible function with respect to the rest of the story. Such scenes ring hollow, and whisper dryly, meaninglessly, through the desiccated leaves of grass that fill our headpieces while we sway and move whichever way the wind is blowing today. They are empty and fill our heads with hay and stubble while our hearts are longing for a vision of green pastures.

Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 14, 2010, 05:55:14 AM
Leaving things unspoken is always my preferred route.  You'd hardly find me arguing against that.

Yet that doesn't mean that all sex scenes are unnecessary.  Again, no one here is arguing that gratuitous graphic sex should be added to every story.  Most people agree that it's rarely done well and often unedifying at best.  You are not trying to convince us that most stories don't need graphic sex scenes, or that sex scenes that don't advance the plot or enable some sort of character advancement can be dispensed with.  You are supposed to be defending your assertion that sex scenes are ALL worthless and that no scenes such as the ones referenced in ElectricPaladin's omnibus assist in creating an artistic effect or can be elevating in themselves.  If you're willing to back down from that to "Most sex scenes, especially poorly-written or gratuitous ones, aren't very good or artistically necessary," then congratulations, we mostly agree.  I take umbrage at the notion that ALL sex scenes are AUTOMATICALLY and UNAVOIDABLY detrimental either to health, emotional maturity, or artistic value, which is the point you've posited repeatedly thus far.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 14, 2010, 06:20:23 AM
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You are supposed to be defending your assertion that sex scenes are ALL worthless and that no scenes such as the ones referenced in ElectricPaladin's omnibus assist in creating an artistic effect or can be elevating in themselves.

Am I?  Besides, I recall my assertion somewhat differently, more at if there is such a thing as a narratively necessary, artistically justified, let alone elevating, graphic sex scene, I've never encountered it.

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If you're willing to back down from that to "Most sex scenes, especially poorly-written or gratuitous ones, aren't very good or artistically necessary," then congratulations, we mostly agree.
How can I back down from an assertion that has been recast so as to be unrecognizable to me as my own?

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I take umbrage at the notion that ALL sex scenes are AUTOMATICALLY and UNAVOIDABLY detrimental either to health, emotional maturity, or artistic value,

To riff on my statement above if there exist graphic sex scenes that are not "AUTOMATICALLY and UNAVOIDABLY detrimental either to health, emotional maturity, or artistic value", then again I must say, I've yet to encounter these literary unicorns.

I do stand by my assertion that even if genuinely possible to do such scenes with great artistry, just because it can be done is not an argument or sufficient justification that it should be done. I'm sorry if it offends you, and you may take umbrage if you wish.  I take umbrage at graphic sex scenes and cannot understand how anyone can sensibly defend them...but the world keeps spinning and people keep writing as they will without any reference or deference to my umbrage. And that said I would rather not go back down this rabbit trail again. For the time being I would rather address the question from the perspective of craft.

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You are not trying to convince us that most stories don't need graphic sex scenes, or that sex scenes that don't advance the plot or enable some sort of character advancement can be dispensed with.

No I'm not, at the moment I'm trying to discuss why attempts at the inclusion of graphic sex scenes so often fall flat.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 14, 2010, 12:48:00 PM
"I have never encountered..."  "literary unicorn..." etc. are all phrases that strongly imply that you are flatly denying such a thing can exist.  If you're not willing to stand up and own your claims, then phooey.

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As for an existing artistic use...

*Points to "Spar."

That story is graphic, but also powerful and artistic.  Many, many people have found it so (as witness it being nominated for a Hugo.  You say it is not *because* of the graphic nature of the sex in it.  This is a bit of a tautology in that you claim the reason it is not art is because of its graphic nature, and the reason the graphic nature prevents it from being art is because graphic sex (in your view) prevents anything from being art.

Do you not see how this is kind of silly?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 14, 2010, 02:31:59 PM
Scattercat,

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"I have never encountered..."  "literary unicorn..." etc. are all phrases that strongly imply that you are flatly denying such a thing can exist.

It seems to me my words do not strongly imply but expressly state...I've never encountered them (either as artistically justified beyond all other concerns, or as without harm), and I've read quite a lot in my life.

So, I think you are twisting my words a little, I never denied that it was possible to deal with graphic sex artistically, though I do believe the artistic success of such efforts is vanishingly rare. To quote you interpreting me "I take umbrage at the notion that ALL sex scenes are AUTOMATICALLY and UNAVOIDABLY detrimental either to health, emotional maturity, or artistic value."  At this juncture in our conversation you are not saying I'm denying such scenes can be done artfully, but that artful or not by their nature they are detrimental and lessen the artistic value of whatever they are a part of. So which is it?

But to move the conversation forward, let us say that Spar by virtue of its artistry rises far above the common sex scene, I do not know because as you know I do not care for graphic sex scenes at all, let alone stories primarily about sexual encounter, so I've no intention of listening to or reading it, ever, but still let us say Spar is the exception in its artistry. What then have I said that would be indicative of my feelings toward such exceptions.  Let me quote myself, "I do stand by my assertion that even if genuinely possible to do such scenes with great artistry, just because it can be done is not an argument or sufficient justification that it should be done."
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 14, 2010, 04:08:16 PM
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You are supposed to be defending your assertion that sex scenes are ALL worthless and that no scenes such as the ones referenced in ElectricPaladin's omnibus assist in creating an artistic effect or can be elevating in themselves.

Am I?  Besides, I recall my assertion somewhat differently, more at if there is such a thing as a narratively necessary, artistically justified, let alone elevating, graphic sex scene, I've never encountered it.

Well, this is what you actually said:

To this day I've never encountered any sex scene in any book or story that had any serious purpose beyond titillation I could discern.

(Emphasis mine.)

So I think Scattercat's reaction - that you have claimed there is no artistic merit beyond titillation - is a pretty fair claim.

If it weren't for that sentence, at least in my mind, this discussion would be quite different. No one's suggesting you should read more stories that feature sex. You should read what you want to read, and if you don't like it - cool. Nobody's saying you need to listen to "Spar". You've already expressed you don't want that story in your head, and nobody's trying to force it there. (Again - that's why we rate, that's why we have content warnings, that's why first sentences can be so great.) But with that sentence, the debate is: Can stories exist with sexual content that goes "beyond titillation."

Another issue, is you're making several different arguments. You recently said:


I do stand by my assertion that even if genuinely possible to do such scenes with great artistry, just because it can be done is not an argument or sufficient justification that it should be done.

Which is a different discussion. It's a fascinating one, and I wouldn't mind having it either, but it's not the same discussion as the one above.

And then there's the whole "people who read stories with sexual content will be emotionally damaged, etc." Another argument - one I'm personally less interested in, because from my perspective, it isn't true. At least not, for me. It may be true for you, and I can respect that. But I don't accept it as a blanket statement, and without any evidence, you're going to have a difficult time going beyond you on this one.

So there's several different things going on (I've skipped a few).
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 14, 2010, 07:21:17 PM
*points at DKT

*wanders off
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 14, 2010, 11:01:24 PM
Doesn't the "that I can discern" carry sufficient weight?  It certainly parallels my statement, "I've not as yet encountered any."  That aspect of what I've said keeps seemly to get mislaid. 

To go back to this quote:
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To this day I've never encountered any sex scene in any book or story that had any serious purpose beyond titillation I could discern.

Let's examine why I feel this is a serious and defensible assertion.

Let's say we have a meticulously crafted, artfully worded graphic sex scene.  One of the things strong writing does is engage the reader drawing them into the world created by the author. So here we have a strong bit of writing that is taking a reader into a full on explicit sexual description. And being well written, the reader is engaged with the characters and the action, all the hot flushing, sweating, touching, kissing, tasting, feeling, moving etc.  In measure they respond in their body and their mind to this directed fantasy. They are sexually stimulated/aroused in some degree by what they read.  Whatever else is happening artistically, whatever deep thoughts they get to ponder latter, in that moment it is their libido that is being addressed...perhaps negatively in a brutal sex scene, but addressed nonetheless. That, I think, is pretty much what titillation is about. And I do not think that it is a good thing to do to anyone.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 15, 2010, 12:16:19 AM
If the emotion of arousal is necessary to the artistic effect of the piece - as in "Spar," where it is created and subverted by the brutality of the situation and the crudity of the language - then yes, that's a fine thing to do in a work of art.  Art also evokes terror and melancholy, yes?  Is it bad to read scary scenes or scenes of heartwrenching sadness?  Those emotions both have measurable negative effects on the body and brain from the chemical changes that take place, stress hormones and so on, whereas arousal is pretty much just good for the body, in moderation.  Lots of positive and cheerful hormones sloshing around all over. 
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Bdoomed on July 15, 2010, 12:55:13 AM
I see what you are saying.  It really boils down to opinion in the end: do I want to subject myself to this scene, knowing (or perhaps not knowing) what it will do to me, and am I okay with that?  However you also have the sex scenes that are artfully crafted but not sexually stimulating, such as the one mentioned in 1984.  Those do nothing but convey meaning.

At this point, I will actually argue against that statement, because I am interested in the discussion and not the result at which I would personally like to arrive.  When I read 1984 back in 8th grade, our teacher explicitly warned us about those chapters with sex, and allowed us to choose whether or not we would read it.  I highly respect my teacher for this, and we never discussed those chapters anything more than 'they have sex in this chapter'.  The book does go on without those scenes just fine.  Skipping them does not detract a whole lot from the book as a whole.  However, those chapters do add another dimension to the world that Orwell built.  Necessary?  No.  Effective?  Yes.

I will also argue that sexually explicit writing, and even the stimulation because of it, is not a bad thing.  I see that facet of writing and film and art as just another way to experience the human condition.  I find it odd that society allows for nudity in art without a second thought, but it is completely different in film and writing.  But that is another argument.  Back to the experience of the human condition... because I see it that way, I do not agree with you that sexual themes/scenes/anything is damaging to the mind/spirit/body/what have you.  It is just another appreciation, like one would appreciate watching a mother smile at her baby. 

Given, one is way more 'innocent' than the other, but in the end they are both very human experiences, and I think they should be treated equally.  However, then you get into "well what do you want children to see?"  To that I say, and I won't generalize to everyone here, as an adult, I can see beauty in many more things than I could as a child.  As a child, I did not appreciate art as I do now, nor film, nor writing.  It is almost akin, but not really, to acquiring a taste for coffee.

Actually, instead of that metaphor, I want to use this one:  When Stravinsky's Rite of Spring came out, it was pretty much hated by everyone, to the point that people apparently rioted.  However, once prepared for the dissonant sounds thanks to the first audience, the second audience absolutely loved it.  They were able to hear the music for its merits.  The human brain adapts relatively quickly to new things, and in this case, it turned dissonance into melody.  Personally, The Augurs of Spring is one of my all time favorite pieces.  Partially because I grew up with Fantasia.  Anyways, being able to appreciate something as dissonant as Stravinsky's Augurs of Spring is, in my opinion, akin to being able to appreciate otherwise appalling and explicit scenes, being able to see the beauty and meaning and art in them.  And, if as a byproduct, there is sexual stimulation, I do not see anything wrong with that.  It is a very human reaction.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 15, 2010, 04:46:28 AM
It does boil down to an opinion in many respects, and that opinion is inextricably rooted in our notions of morality. My views, as noted previously, are considerably more absolutist than others. I do not invent my own moral compass. And according to that compass given me while there is room for condescension to human weakness and limitation, there are still boundaries, thresholds that must not be crossed because the transgression of those thresholds is ultimately destructive to the best good of the person and of society. Sexual explicitness I believe is one of those thresholds.  For certain classes of people the threshold is even more closely circumscribed, monastics for example, for whom the stimulation of any carnal appetite is unwelcome. Most of us aren't called to be monastics though.

We live in a more libertine and a more pluralistic time than ages past, and so less and less are such moral schemas given general credence. Of course I am not of the persuasion that vox populi is automatically co-inherent with vox Dei...in my world view, the crowd can be wrong. 

So why the line in the sand at explicit sexual content...where does sexual content pass from provocative (in a good way) to pruriant? I think most of us would agree that gratuitous anything in a putative work of art diminishes that art, teen slasher films like the Halloween franchise being a case in point. They will never individually or collectively be positively compared with the Russian film Ostrov, a quiet but staggeringly rich masterpiece of cinematography and storytelling. Since sex and sexuality are indeed part of the human condition then why is it objectionable to deal with them as explicitly in the arts as with any other facet of the human condition such as joy, grief, suffering, love, triumph, or despair, all the more when any of these things among so many others can be threaded through the experience of sex? Why when these things are suggested together with sex, it often works so well, so powerfully...but when the sex is explicit it rarely (if ever in my book) is able to do so?

It seems to me that there are two (though there may be more) substantive reasons why explicit sex scenes so often fall flat artistically and why they are an artistic choice that is extraordinarily hard to justify.  Beyond the pragmatics of my butt shot critique in earlier posts, the first reason lies in the consideration that I've outlined earlier that such scenes are by their nature coarsening to the human psyche. They offer too little in the way of that which is pure, unfeigned, just, beautiful, true, and of good report to justify them.  The human soul is simply not ennobled by them...and what effects the person effects the person's world and all others in it, and I happen to think we should make at least a minimal effort to see to it that the effect of our life on the life others is to their good.

I hear the objections now...what about war, murder, abandonment, torture, injustice, disease, etc...all these things are dealt with in great detail on stage, on film, on canvas, and in print, and of themselves not one of them is ennobling. Leaving gratuitous excess aside, what make these things permissible even desirable for our contemplation in their explicitness, but not sex? In what way do we discover beauty and truth and purity and goodness in them?  I think this takes us back, way back to what the Greeks understood about the purpose of their plays and public storytelling.  They expected public catharsis through identification with the characters and the plot. We might say they expected a kind of enlargement...a healing of their hearts. The festering volatilities of the human psyche could be lanced, duty learned, empathy experienced.  It took them out of themselves and showed them their connection to each other, to the gods, to their past, and to their posterity across the ages. These terrible and ignoble things are but individual mouths of the great wound that weeps in the heart of humanity...the wound we are easily cognizant of in ourselves, hence our many excuses for our failings...but we are so often blind to them in others. Art can be the apotheosis of these things, their redemption by becoming vessels of empathy and catharsis. We learn the suffering of our neighbor is our own.  We learn mercy and forbearance.  But this seldom if ever happens with sexually explicit materials. Grant certain of the interweaving circumstances evoke positive effects in the reader, but they are offset by the constant appeal to the burning appetite.  The reader on the one hand may be sympathetic to a given character plight that is entangled with sex...but the sexual content itself engenders a certain delight that is savored even if on reflection the reader/viewer/hearer is disgusted with himself for feeling that way.  Why does it so easily do this? I think that brings us to the second reason.

It is related to the question Bdoomed poised,
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I find it odd that society allows for nudity in art without a second thought, but it is completely different in film and writing.
. To a large extent I think this is at heart an expression of our relation to sign and symbol. A painting or a drawing is ontologically much further removed from us than film or writing. As a representation it lies closer to the world of sign...this image represents a person. When we see actors or read stories we are ontologically much closer...those are the real actions of real people captured in situ sexually engaged before our eyes, their very impress on film, their symbol. We do not participate in signs...we are informed by them at a distance, but symbols are gateways to participation in the thing itself because the ontological connection is strong...so with this explicit film and its exposition of this normally very private aspect of the human condition, wittingly or not, we have ceased to be admirers/students of the human condition, but become its voyeurs.  Deep inside we know that we are engaged in a kind of trespass...we may enjoy the trespass, but it is a trespass nonetheless. It is similar with writing.  It is ontologically a symbol, in this case of the author's mind. We are thinking their thoughts after them, having our mental eye and ear guided by them point by point...and they are showing us the naturally intimate and private and rendering us voyeurs again...and worse, for by following their depictions, letting them guide our imagination and stimulate us as they will then we enter the realm not just of the voyeuristic, but the masturbatory...they may fondle us verbally with great art but they are for all intents and purposes running their hands down our pants while telling us a story. Maybe some are open minded enough not mind that...but, I am not one of them.



Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on July 15, 2010, 05:07:54 AM
You keep writing these really long posts that don't do anything but baldly assert over and over that explicit sex scenes are "coarsening" to the human psyche.  They're very pretty verbiage, but asserting something over and over is not the same as proving it.

WHAT IS TRUE FOR YOU IS NOT TRUE FOR EVERYONE.


YOU don't find purity, beauty, or a connection to the ages in sex and nudity and etc.  Okay, that's fine.  Whatever floats your boat.  OTHER PEOPLE (rather a lot of them, to judge from a lot of the art we have) DO.

Hell, the literal oldest art we know about revolves around sex and violence.  (Mother-goddess fertility carvings and cave paintings of hunts.)  You don't think half of that equation counts, but your only explanation as to why keeps boiling down to "because I said so."

You know what?  I give up.  Someone else try repeating yourself over and over and over and getting nothing back but meandering essays full of five-dollar words in some sort of weird attempt to win by dint of syllable count.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 15, 2010, 06:02:16 AM
Win?

Since when was it a contest? I thought it was a discussion. Nor have I been trying to prove anything, or anything other than answer the questions asked of me regarding my opinions on this subject. They are my opinions, and I hold them because I think they are right but I'm under no illusions that there are a lot who agree with me.  I have noticed my questions don't get much in the way of answers though.  It would have been nice to have had some of them actually engaged, but no matter. Thank you however for thinking my verbiage is pretty. 

That said, please recall, that I tried to move away from all this and discuss the issue of sex in SF from the point of view of craft, but you didn't want to let it go. So if you are tired of telling me over and over and over again that I'm wrong and I've got different truths than everybody else's truths it's not because there were no other options on the table.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: DKT on July 15, 2010, 05:56:06 PM
Let's say we have a meticulously crafted, artfully worded graphic sex scene.  One of the things strong writing does is engage the reader drawing them into the world created by the author. So here we have a strong bit of writing that is taking a reader into a full on explicit sexual description. And being well written, the reader is engaged with the characters and the action, all the hot flushing, sweating, touching, kissing, tasting, feeling, moving etc.  In measure they respond in their body and their mind to this directed fantasy. They are sexually stimulated/aroused in some degree by what they read.  Whatever else is happening artistically, whatever deep thoughts they get to ponder latter, in that moment it is their libido that is being addressed...perhaps negatively in a brutal sex scene, but addressed nonetheless. That, I think, is pretty much what titillation is about. And I do not think that it is a good thing to do to anyone.

Again, I'd like to point out that you're only talking about sex you describe that's meant to excite or arouse. And while I don't agree with your conclusions (for me personally - again, I'm not trying to make you read more sex), many more emotions can be communicated in an explicitly written description of sex (and FTR, I'd like to remind everyone that in this case, explicit seems to indicate any kind of description beyond a closed door). There's humor, there's loss, there's healing, there's beauty. There is so much more than lust when it comes to sex. There are certainly stories about lust - but it doesn't stop there.

Jonathan Lethem writes heartbreakingly hilarious sex. See Motherless Brooklyn, or (for all you SF fans) As She Climbed Across the Table.

Chuck Palahniuk pretty much covers the gamut of emotions/reactions when it comes to sex: everything from gross to funny to addictive.

Michael Chabon's books and stories also do quite a bit - disturbing, beautiful, funny, and like Lethem - sometimes just plain sexy.

Merrie Haskell's "Sun's East, Moon's West" at PC has some very funny sex in it.

The libraries are full of them, and there's a decent amount in the PC and EP archives.

Another way of looking at it: All the episodes run on EP and PodCastle are rated, just like films are rated. We try to specify for our listeners (sometimes unsuccessfully) when there's going to be explicit violence, explicit sex, explicit language, etc. That said, all of these elements (and others) can be used to convey different types of emotion: excitement, terror, loss, humor, healing, beauty.

Quentin Tarrantino makes violence both disturbing and funny. (So does Elmore Leonard.)

So my argument is that sex in literature is meant to do much more than simply arouse or excite, although it can do that, too.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 15, 2010, 06:37:48 PM
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So my argument is that sex in literature is meant to do much more than simply arouse or excite, although it can do that, too.

As noted in your quote, I agree, much more can be going on in an explicit sex scene than the sex itself. The sex can serve as the expression of these other things or as the reflector of other things. Just as a point of clarity, what I mean by reflector is something in a story that is not important in itself but around which the other stuff circles and rebounds...like a couple angry over frustrated hidden agendas at breakfast...one gets all snippy about the toast and they have a big argument about toast, but the toast is not really what the argument is about; the angry passion reflected in the over-crisp bread is boiling up from another place. This type of craft would definitely elevate the piece, but it seems to me there are other ways to give narrative expression to these other interwoven more desirable elements that do not require sexual explicitness.  Beyond that even though these other well chosen elements are present, the titillation aspect is also present in the graphic depictions. I cannot see any way to excise that aspect short eschewing explicitness in favor of artful suggestion and implication (the Rhett and Scarlett thing). 

So I'm not saying such passages have no other purpose narratively speaking but rather  whatever their other purpose, explicit sexual depiction inescapably involves some significant measure of titillation, at least so far as I can tell.  Speaking for myself, I am not convinced that the artistry of the other elements are ever of such significance and weight that they make the titillation aspect acceptable. Nor do I think such stimulation is a worthy end to desire in itself. That's why I prefer all sexual relations in literature to be presented at a distance, suggested, not shown.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Bdoomed on July 15, 2010, 06:51:57 PM
So I'm not saying such passages have no other purpose narratively speaking but rather  whatever their other purpose, explicit sexual depiction inescapably involves some significant measure of titillation, at least so far as I can tell.  Speaking for myself, I am not convinced that the artistry of the other elements are ever of such significance and weight that they make the titillation aspect acceptable. Nor do I think such stimulation is a worthy end to desire in itself. That's why I prefer all sexual relations in literature to be presented at a distance, suggested, not shown.

I 98% agree.  I say 98 to allow for passages I haven't read/examples I don't know of, but as far as I know, there are other ways of expressing the same emotions most often, if not always.  I just don't mind it.

However, none of palahniuk's novels would be the same without explicit everything.  I guess there's my 2% disagreement...
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Bdoomed on July 15, 2010, 06:53:16 PM
Though... I don't think many people are titillated by Palahniuk's explicit writing...
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: stePH on July 16, 2010, 01:13:03 AM
I do not invent my own moral compass.

Um.... what?  ???  So who invented it for you, then?  Where'd you get it?
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 16, 2010, 03:02:52 AM
I think that was covered in some earlier posts.  Suffice it to say its a church thing, a question of the Tradition. It informs and has helped shaped my moral compass such as it is...not that I live up to its ideals/standards with any consistency...that is a day by day thing.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Talia on July 16, 2010, 03:52:41 AM
I think that was covered in some earlier posts.  Suffice it to say its a church thing, a question of the Tradition. It informs and has helped shaped my moral compass such as it is...not that I live up to its ideals/standards with any consistency...that is a day by day thing.

So those of us who don't follow your faith are just immoral or what? (full disclosure: Atheist here.)

Its been my experience that tradition is well-best shucked, in virtually every instance. Staying rooted in the past is a sure step towards stagnation as a culture.

Look at the civilations steeped in old traditions today. Largely, we call these third-world countries.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 16, 2010, 04:32:31 AM
Soooo the natural implication of my answering a question concerning what shapes my moral outlook is somehow the equivalent of automatically construing the morality of others as deficient?  Anyway, we have enough trouble getting those who do follow our faith to live morally. Those outside our faith will just have to do the best they can by such lights as they have; we're pretty busy trying to get straight what's wrong with ourselves.

On Tradition: It has been my experience that the Tradition is best treasured.  As for being rooted in the past there is an old Russian proverb, "Look to the past, lose an eye. Forget the past, lose both eyes."  Besides trees don't grow from their branches they grow from their roots.  I think there is a technical term for branches that loose connection to their roots...oh yes, lumber.

Otherwise I'm sorry if you are wanting me to pronounce some kind of general judgment on you, that's not my job. Besides this thread is not about benchmarks to judging your neighbor's morality.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Talia on July 16, 2010, 04:48:59 AM
OK, I'm sorry, mayhap I overreacted. I seem to have caused offense when I didn't mean to.

Regarding the past:
I think maybe the answer lies somewhere in between. Learn from the past. Don't rely on it.

Difficulty is finding the place in between. :)

Wasn't wanting pronouncement, was just feeling vaguely judged. But you're right, my feelings aren't relevant to the general gist of the thread. I guess I should STFU & GBTW :P
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Seraphim on July 16, 2010, 05:03:54 AM
No offense taken...a cautious peeking through the palisade to check for the sudden appearance of flying eggs and other objects repurposed as small missiles...but no offense.

Addendum:
thank you though for mentioning that you were an atheist. It reminded me of one of my old college roommates, and I've spent the last several minutes reflecting on his life. He was one of the dearest friends I have ever had. We went to church together with our other friends for years; he married the girl I was interested in (who started hanging out with him to avoid me and my clumsy youthful advances). In time they divorced when he had a crisis of sexual identity, later he had a crisis of faith became an atheist and then he finished his graduate degree in Portuguese Literature (I'm not sure the two are related). Then we lost contact for several years. Sadly, I learned from his brother that he had contracted and then died of HIV/AIDS and I had found out too late, a couple of months after the fact...and never got to say goodbye.  To this day, even with the loss of contact over all those years, I miss his friendship, very much and think about him often.  I suspect that even as an atheist he remained a better Christian than I could ever hope to be. Till the time his health completely failed him he visited with AIDS stricken teens in the hospitals of New Orleans to offer what comfort or counsel that he could.  I cannot agree with and barely understand some of the choices he made and conclusions he came to, but neither can I deny that he was and in my heart remains, my dear and beloved friend, and because he is my friend, because I knew his hunger and his aspiration...his audacity to be ruthlessly true to himself...I have no judgements to make, only prayers for the peace and repose of his soul.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Obleo21 on July 21, 2010, 05:45:56 PM

We live in a more libertine and a more pluralistic time than ages past, and so less and less are such moral schemas given general credence. 


As an archaeologist and anthropologist, I can say quite definitively that pretty much the opposite of this is true.  I think the idea stems from the fact that we are comparing the modern era of tv and our society of very high literacy with those of the past.  It's difficult to compare sexual mores today with occasionally viewing statues and not being able to read.  For many, many, many cultures, including our own, sex was never a private activity (Single room houses, huts, yurts, tepes, whatever...)

On a tangential note, and starting off by saying that I find slasher flicks in general boring and well, boring, as an anthropologist, I would argue that graphic and gratuitous portrayals of sex, violence, etc. do have a social/psychological role ( as a psycho-linguist Eytanz can refute or elaborate... ;)).  There are peoples around the world living such events.  Arms chopped off, rapes, abuse, etc.  Titillation can be a "safe" way to confront the realities of life, especially if one is not actually experiencing it.  People can confront their feelings in the context of "what if it was real".  It's also why many cultures impose cultural constructs on things that in general suck (lovely scientific term) such as gladiator/soldier as a portrayal of manliness, martyrdom/sacrifice, etc. 
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Obleo21 on July 22, 2010, 01:44:12 AM
One aspect of Seraphim's argument I will wholeheartedly agree with.  The use of sex in literature for the purpose to only titillate (I am not referring to any story in particular and I didn't dislike like Spar) ultimately renders it mundane.  Who wants sex to be mundane?  Unless its mundaneness is integral to the story of course, but that might be sort of dull.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Planish on December 17, 2010, 11:42:30 PM
I'm in the mood to channel Oscar Wilde.

"It is absurd to divide people sex scenes into good and bad. People Sex scenes are either charming or tedious."
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Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Scattercat on December 18, 2010, 12:12:35 AM
Old Oscar isn't really the most uncontroversial authority on the subject, regardless of how impressive his credentials.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Heradel on December 18, 2010, 06:13:52 AM
Old Oscar isn't really the most uncontroversial authority on the subject, regardless of how impressive his credentials.

I do wonder sometimes what Wilde would have written if he lived in more modern times. Not that I would trade it for The Important of Being Earnest, which I'm currently re-reading again.
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: FNH on March 18, 2011, 10:39:25 AM
Hmmm....

If I went to watch Tron 2 ( which I didn't ) and had the choice of a 2 minute sex scene, or 2 more minutes of  tank/bike action.  I'd opt for the tanks and bikes.

As a general rule, as has been cited, sex scenes in SF are rarely there to advance the plot.  When I'm watching a Sci Fi movie I want Sci Fi.  So please shut the door, fade to black and add in more space ships!
Title: Re: Sex in SF and Literature
Post by: Wilson Fowlie on March 22, 2011, 06:37:48 PM
As a general rule, as has been cited, sex scenes in SF are rarely there to advance the plot.  When I'm watching a Sci Fi movie I want Sci Fi.  So please shut the door, fade to black and add in more space ships!

2 extra minutes of action is unlikely to advance the plot either (nor is it especially science fictional, for that matter, though I would agree that it's Sci-Fi-ish [per Spider Robinson's distinction between sf and SciFi]).  It's fine if action is more to your taste than sex, but it's not intrinsically better (or worse), nor more plot-advancing.