... I think, though, that I'm beginning to see an underlying issue here that I haven't heard stated (correct me if I'm wrong on any point here): the "ID side" (I don't like that blanket term, but let's just use it for simplification) want to see more of a partnership between religion and science, whereas the other side want it to remain mutually exclusive.
I think you, birdless, and wintermute worked out your differences nicely; and CammoBlammo gave a lovely dissertation that offers some good examples, but the key phrase I want to point out in the quote above is "the other side". If your mission is to avoid inflammatory language, I'll ask you to mark that phrase with yellow police tape, call out the verbal bomb squad, and have it obliterated from your lexicon. Because there are far more than two sides involved in this issue, and the battle isn't about "forming a partnership" between religion and science - it's about making sure that everyone recognizes the differences between them.
There are a lot of really crackpot ideas that can sound perfectly logical, but are obviously non-scientific; sure, that electric current *could* be a demon running through the wire... and you are free to teach that to your child at home if you want. But even if a majority of people believed that, it would be wrong to teach it in science unless it was something that was proven (or, as with evolution, put forward and adopted by the relevant scientific community).
If I was King, and it was up to me to say how this should be taught in schools, I would have evolution taught as what it is: a theory that seeks to explain how things work. Religion has no place in a science lesson. If you want Creation taught in Religion class, go for it. If you want scientific "evidence" for your beliefs included in the chapter on your particular faith, that would be appropriate (as appropriate as the scriptures themselves, and linguist analysis of the translations). Religion is about faith and believing in the unseen and unprovable; Religion has no place in science BECAUSE science is about the provable, observable, and repeatable.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm opposed to the main objective of ID (to teach religion as scientific fact) but open to the idea that there could actually be a God using evolution as his noodly app... I mean as his tool. Being open minded isn't the same as believing it, though, and I think far too many people of faith (yeah, I'm looking at you, Muslims... you too, Christians) take offense at the idea that other people don't believe the same thing they do. Are some atheists guilty of this, too? Hells yeah; I also don't think it's appropriate for a teacher to tell students that their faith is wrong or impossible - or idiotic - in the classroom. (Tell them in the hallway... I kid. I'd send them to their parents or pastor for the religious questions.) But the fact that teachers have been cruel to their students is no reason to turn your curriculum into a farce.
There are just too many "sides" for us to try to boil this down to 2, though; if you hear someone telling you the other side is out to get you, they are probably trying to sell you something.