I just listened to
EP127: Results, which deals with testing genetic compatibility of potential parents. Still working my way through old EP episodes, I skipped one of the workshops at the conference I am attending and went for a walk instead, a walk through Windsor Great Park that is, which was well worth it, even though the story wasn’t really that great. But it did make me think a bit, and since I am a woman in her thirties, who is NOT married and does NOT have children (and who maybe never will) I am becoming more and more aware of the stigma I have to deal with, every time I need to answer the question, “Don’t you want to start thinking about having children? It's about time..” etc. etc., therefore, the story’s themes resonated a lot with me.
I remembered how many ‘Geek Dads’ we have on the forum and I thought I could pick your brains a bit.
We know that the ‘genetic diagnosis’ described in the story is to a certain extent already possible, at least for some illnesses. My mother who has worked for years in genetic research (Human Genome Project) and medicine, told me when I was a teenager that I have a genetic disposition for developing a (minor) skin condition (as found on a particular gene), which kind of made me a bit nervous. I never did develop the skin condition and am well past the age it would first show up, but I always thought I never really wanted to know. There are so many other illnesses that can be diagnosed already, and the project is progressing really fast, I think.
I was wondering what you as (future) parents thought about this, whether for example
• you did get tested or would want to know whether your children would be likely to develop certain DISEASES?
• whether you would WANT to know what kind of problems or tendencies your children would develop (such as obesity, Alzheimer’s, etc.)?
• whether you would want to DO SOMETHING about that (‘have designer babies’, determine hair colour, physical appearances in general, talents, affinities, etc.)?
• etc. etc.
I have a big problem with the notion that everyone needs to be special. What is wrong with being mediocre? Obviously parents want the best for their children, but if it comes to some kind of competition as to whose children are the prettiest, the smartest, the most talented, I am getting really annoyed.
… and not to forget that upbringing and social environment have a huge impact on how a person becomes who they are (I know that alone is debatable). Loving children and supporting them to make their own decisions and determine what they WANT can mean that one can beat the odds determined by genetic testing. But that is my opinion, you as parents might have very different experiences and attitudes and I for one would love to hear them.
(Sorry, if you have discussed all this before, I haven's clicked through all the threads to check.)