Interview The Person Below You

[Zathras]

That I haven't had enough beer tonight.  (Tinkerbell is fixing that right now)

What's your favorite beer?

[Bdoomed]

Ich muss auch mein Deutsch arbeiten.

id like to be a bonzai tree!

a/b/c/d/etc cup?

I have no clue what that means so I will go with my favorite letter X

oh come on, bra size...

[Heradel]

Ich muss auch mein Deutsch arbeiten.

id like to be a bonzai tree!

a/b/c/d/etc cup?

I have no clue what that means so I will go with my favorite letter X

oh come on, bra size...

Ahem. Oh, come on, bra size.

[Portrait in Flesh]

You need to ask that? Seriously?

Whilst examining a witness, never ask a question you don't already know the answer to.   

[lowky]

Ich muss auch mein Deutsch arbeiten.

id like to be a bonzai tree!

a/b/c/d/etc cup?

I have no clue what that means so I will go with my favorite letter X

oh come on, bra size...

do i have to change my answer even though I feel like an idiot now?  it was the etc. that thew me.  I guess my answer would be a B+ or a C- (somewhere in between the two.  aka a large B or Small C)

[Heradel]

Ich muss auch mein Deutsch arbeiten.

id like to be a bonzai tree!

a/b/c/d/etc cup?

I have no clue what that means so I will go with my favorite letter X

oh come on, bra size...

do i have to change my answer even though I feel like an idiot now?  it was the etc. that thew me.  I guess my answer would be a B+ or a C- (somewhere in between the two.  aka a large B or Small C)

I'm sorry, I just find this whole topic stupid in a inadvertently-damaging way. Outside of frat houses, does anyone actually think that reducing someone down to a letter or series of numbers is any kind of a way to run a courtship? Do we really need to perpetuate stereotypes with the implication that there is an ideal body type? I understand the role of personal preferences, but does anyone actually think that approaching a prospective date with a checklist is a good idea?

[Russell Nash]

Ich muss auch mein Deutsch arbeiten.

id like to be a bonzai tree!

a/b/c/d/etc cup?

I have no clue what that means so I will go with my favorite letter X

oh come on, bra size...

do i have to change my answer even though I feel like an idiot now?  it was the etc. that thew me.  I guess my answer would be a B+ or a C- (somewhere in between the two.  aka a large B or Small C)

I'm sorry, I just find this whole topic stupid in a inadvertently-damaging way. Outside of frat houses, does anyone actually think that reducing someone down to a letter or series of numbers is any kind of a way to run a courtship? Do we really need to perpetuate stereotypes with the implication that there is an ideal body type? I understand the role of personal preferences, but does anyone actually think that approaching a prospective date with a checklist is a good idea?

It was a simple question about what a guy (or lesbian) finds attractive.  I don't think there's anything wrong with that.  We don't have any control over what we are attracted to. 

I do think it was unfair to not give a female (or gay) version of the question as an option. If any of our ladies would like to throw in a similarly objectifying question, I'd… Who am I kidding?  Ladies it's revenge time.  Have at it.

[Bdoomed]

there was no malice behind that question peeps.
there can be a preference but that doesnt have to be a determining factor.
what would be the female/gay version of that?  the one i can think of isnt immediately prominent upon first glance ... in most cases...

[birdless]

Featherstonehaugh.  How that gets to be pronounced "Fanshaw" is beyond me.

That's amazing. Where did you come across that?

[Heradel]

there was no malice behind that question peeps.
there can be a preference but that doesnt have to be a determining factor.
what would be the female/gay version of that?  the one i can think of isnt immediately prominent upon first glance ... in most cases...

[outrageously gay friend]Oh sweetie, you have no idea.[/outrageously gay friend]

My point is that even without malice or intent it's damaging. It's the pretty models photoshopped into platonic ideals of... something not in nature. The warped idea of a woman, not one constrained by petty things like biology and physics.

I'm not saying that physical attractiveness is a bad thing, or that it shouldn't be considered in courtship, but that attempts to quantify a holistic process are dehumanizing.

[Russell Nash]

there was no malice behind that question peeps.
there can be a preference but that doesnt have to be a determining factor.
what would be the female/gay version of that?  the one i can think of isnt immediately prominent upon first glance ... in most cases...

[outrageously gay friend]Oh sweetie, you have no idea.[/outrageously gay friend]

My point is that even without malice or intent it's damaging. It's the pretty models photoshopped into platonic ideals of... something not in nature. The warped idea of a woman, not one constrained by petty things like biology and physics.

I'm not saying that physical attractiveness is a bad thing, or that it shouldn't be considered in courtship, but that attempts to quantify a holistic process are dehumanizing.

I'm not going to argue.  I'm opening it up to a vote.  Ladies only, was the original question hurtful or were you just pissed there wasn't a version for you to answer?

[stePH]

there was no malice behind that question peeps.
there can be a preference but that doesnt have to be a determining factor.
what would be the female/gay version of that?  the one i can think of isnt immediately prominent upon first glance ... in most cases...

[outrageously gay friend]Oh sweetie, you have no idea.[/outrageously gay friend]

My point is that even without malice or intent it's damaging. It's the pretty models photoshopped into platonic ideals of... something not in nature. The warped idea of a woman, not one constrained by petty things like biology and physics.

I'm not saying that physical attractiveness is a bad thing, or that it shouldn't be considered in courtship, but that attempts to quantify a holistic process are dehumanizing.

I'm not going to argue.  I'm opening it up to a vote.  Ladies only, was the original question hurtful or were you just pissed there wasn't a version for you to answer?

Maybe it was asking the ladies what size they wear? 

[stePH]

Featherstonehaugh.  How that gets to be pronounced "Fanshaw" is beyond me.

That's amazing. Where did you come across that?

P.G. Wodehouse has a character named Stanley Featherstonehaugh Ukridge who features in many stories (though I don't think he's ever crossed paths with Bertie Wooster).

[Bdoomed]

i plugged Featherstonehaugh into google and it gave me a wikipedia of ridiculously weird names pronounced even weirder.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_names_in_English_with_non-intuitive_pronunciations

[DKT]

there was no malice behind that question peeps.
there can be a preference but that doesnt have to be a determining factor.
what would be the female/gay version of that?  the one i can think of isnt immediately prominent upon first glance ... in most cases...

[outrageously gay friend]Oh sweetie, you have no idea.[/outrageously gay friend]

My point is that even without malice or intent it's damaging. It's the pretty models photoshopped into platonic ideals of... something not in nature. The warped idea of a woman, not one constrained by petty things like biology and physics.

I'm not saying that physical attractiveness is a bad thing, or that it shouldn't be considered in courtship, but that attempts to quantify a holistic process are dehumanizing.

I'm not going to argue.  I'm opening it up to a vote.  Ladies only, was the original question hurtful or were you just pissed there wasn't a version for you to answer?

Out of curiousity, how many women read this part of the forum? I can only think of a few. I know a few seem to adamantly ignore it, and it's been a while since even Rachel or Ann have made an appearance here.

[Talia]

I'm not going to argue.  I'm opening it up to a vote.  Ladies only, was the original question hurtful or were you just pissed there wasn't a version for you to answer?

Hmm, sorry Heradel, you're certainly entitled to your opinion, but I personally dont care if someone asks about bra sizes. Doesn't hurt me, doesn't offend me at all.

Oh, and to answer,  DDD



not really

[Talia]

Out of curiousity, how many women read this part of the forum? I can only think of a few. I know a few seem to adamantly ignore it, and it's been a while since even Rachel or Ann have made an appearance here.

I can think of at least three, myself included. There are almost certainly more.

And what do you mean by a few seem to adamantly ignore it? heh.

[DKT]

Out of curiousity, how many women read this part of the forum? I can only think of a few. I know a few seem to adamantly ignore it, and it's been a while since even Rachel or Ann have made an appearance here.

I can think of at least three, myself included. There are almost certainly more.

And what do you mean by a few seem to adamantly ignore it? heh.

Talia, ou were one of the few (I had three in my head, too) who participated in this part of the forum I was thinking of

[Talia]

Oh, I must be frigging blind. You said "this PART of the forum." IE the gallimaufry board.

Thus my confusion. Never mind!

[stePH]

Out of curiousity, how many women read this part of the forum? I can only think of a few. I know a few seem to adamantly ignore it, and it's been a while since even Rachel or Ann have made an appearance here.

I can think of at least three, myself included. There are almost certainly more.

And what do you mean by a few seem to adamantly ignore it? heh.

Talia, ou were one of the few (I had three in my head, too) who participated in this part of the forum I was thinking of

Wait ... Talia is female?  I was led to believe there are no females on the internets 

[Bdoomed]

oh there iz plenty of females on the internets, but they is for looking at!

and back to the heart of the issue
glad it didnt offend, talia

[Talia]

Wait ... Talia is female?

Only on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays.

Wait, it's Wednesday - I guess you'll have to disregard my previous answer :p

[Heradel]

I'm not going to argue.  I'm opening it up to a vote.  Ladies only, was the original question hurtful or were you just pissed there wasn't a version for you to answer?

Hmm, sorry Heradel, you're certainly entitled to your opinion, but I personally dont care if someone asks about bra sizes. Doesn't hurt me, doesn't offend me at all.

Oh, and to answer,  DDD


not really

That's what brought it up, but I'd have said about the same thing if one of the female denizens had asked how tall a guy needs to be before one would date them. My objection is to the quantification of a person down into things they have to be to be the ideal guy/girl/tribble. Attaching value to things that humans have no direct control over always struck me as damaging and unfair. And these days we can correct these things with plastic surgery, which basically promises that there is only a financial barrier keeping people from their ideal existence.

[Zathras]

Can we split the blatantly serious posts from this thread?  Sheesh!  Highjackers!

[DKT]

Can we split the blatantly serious posts from this thread?  Sheesh!  Highjackers!

No!

See me getting us back on track? (Answer, and a question!)